Gone Farr too soon

$13,265 donated
Given by 65 generous donors in 4 weeks

Please help give Melissa & family the ability to grieve & honour Tony without burden, & to give him a fitting farewell xxx


Tony Farr, a loving husband to Melissa, a special father to Garry, Mathew & Hollie, a doting Poppa to Willow & Oliver, a treasured son of Carol & Gary, a precious brother of Donna, and an adored Uncle, and loyal friend to so many… Tony was taken from us well before any of us were ready to say goodbye.

After a challenging journey to get a diagnosis when Tony wasn’t well at all (although he hid it so well), it was one that wasn’t expected, and certainly one that no one wants to hear. The dirty C word. But Tony & Melissa are pragmatic, positive people, and Tony responded well to initial treatment. Life carried on and we all were so grateful.

No one expected in early 2022, when he arrived at the hospital with his wife by his side, for his next round of treatment, that he would be told there was nothing more they could do. The C had spread, to places that couldn’t be healed. Life was now limited and all about creating as many memories as possible. Soaking up the “lasts” of all the things he loved to do. And somehow he still managed to crack jokes and find the humour in things, even when those of us around him couldn’t. That was one of his many gifts, finding a way to laugh. We mustn’t forget that as we grieve. He wouldn’t want that.

Devastatingly, we have lost a special man, & now we must rally around his family & support them in every way we can, to honour Tony & those who made his life whole. I hope you can help Melissa & their family in the extremely difficult times ahead xxx

Rachel Bryenton's involvement (page creator)

Melissa is my Aunty & has always been a huge support to me. I wish to help her in all the ways I can during this devastating time in her life xxx

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Funeral costs, and family costs to allow Tony’s loved ones to mourn his loss without the financial pressures that come with losing a husband and father too soon

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Final goodbye & thank you   27 May 2022

Yesterday we said our final goodbye to Tony at his funeral at Silverstream Retreat. It was a fitting farewell & it was wonderful to see so many people who loved & respected Tony.

I would like to extend a huge thank you to everyone that has offered so much support to Melissa & family; it has been incredible to see & we hope you can continue to be there for them in the challenging weeks & months ahead.

Your generosity is incredibly humbling & so very appreciated xx Thank you from the bottom of our hearts. And thank you for being such a special part of Tony’s life xx

Warm regards,


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Ryan and Victoria - 39b Motutere Bay on 28 May 2022
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McAndrews Family on 26 May 2022
Another one taken way too soon. Lots of memories made over the many years and will continue to be made with Melissa & Hollie. Rest In Peace Tony, you will be missed but always remembered ❤️ Kelly, Dayne, Kerryn & Cameron

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