All donations will go towards our family to relieve the financial pressures of yet another tragedy this year Cancer!
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Please help us.
2018/2019 has been a tragic time for our household.
We wouldn't wish it upon anyone.
2018 our daughter began to decline health wise, in and out of hospital continually throughout the year, with fluid in the lungs and difficulty breathing. Not to mention an increase in seizure activities.
Amber was born with a few medical complications due to assults on myself during my pregnancy, caused from Ambers birth father.
For 15 years i have been unable to work due to needing to be available for Amber at all times.
We were blessed to have Ambers's step dad walk into our lives and take on a very challenging role as a full time step dad in 2007.
He provided for us financially and helped support us in all hospital care's Amber needed in the home and in hospital.
We have never been acc funded.
In November 2018 we flew to Christchurch to receive yet another surgery for Amber, there have been numerous surgeries through her life. This one was to ensure a better quality of life. To stop aspiration and to stop fluid going into her lungs.
Surgery was a success! However afterwards was not.. she spent over 5 nights in intensive care units, we nearly lost her twice it was touch and go. The hospital decided to fly us back to dunedin via the life flight, nz flying doctors. Once back home Amber continued to decline, her seizures became so terrible she was having up too 20 per day.. We had meetings and disscusions around end of life etc.
We stayed in hospital for over a month.
We were able to take Amber home on Christmas day ( her last one).
We knew we didnt have much time left. We had referals to hospice care, make a wish but it was all too late.
We desparatly wanted to make memories.
But it was all too late.
Hubby took so much time off work and our house was very much adjusted to hospital life. Living between home and hospital took its toll on us all. Hospital was our second home for 15 years and more so in the end of Amber's life.
We cared for her and made sure she was comfortable from there on in.
Then in the first week of February 2019 I was rushed into hospital and diagnosed with pulmonary embolism, I survived , but I was very sick for awhile, again more stress on the family and more time off work for hubby to care for Amber and our other children. I still have to be regularly checked in the respiratory clinic.
Then in March 2019 Amber was yet again rushed back to hospital with increased seizure activity and unfortunately fluid in her lungs. Her wee body could not cope she developed phenomena and put herself into a sleeping coma for 2 days. We were told to say our goodbyes. It was gutwrenching . I didn't want to say goodbye to my wee girl.
On March the 8th my angel passed away. We lost our wee girl.
Everything was a blur, not to mention expensive. We did have some financial help from family and friends but we still had financial burden as well as broken hearts. None of us wanted to work. We are still very much heartbroken and find living without our girl extremely difficult. A month after my daughters death a very close family member was diagnosed with breast cancer, more hospital appointments, surgery and so forth. Thankfully now in remission.
My father also had some underlying health issue's going on, then decided to walk out of my life when i desparetely needed his support and love. From my daughter's death till now our family has crumbled, our other children are currently not doing well , we have support in place for counselling and child mental health team. Its a hard road for us all. Then in September my cousin died.
And in October my husband was diagnosed with cancer! We have ongoing appointments, just had surgery to remove the tumor, hubby is unable to work, more appointments coming and cancer treatment too.
Please help us
Before we found out he had cancer we booked a holiday to the gold coast to mark our daughters 1st year of death, we wanted to do a special memorial for her. And for us. We as a family deserve something good. We are grieving so hard with all we have had to endure this year, all we have lost and still have to go through.we are financial struggling.
We know there are more hospital appointments, and cancer theripies we will have to endure, more time off work, please help us in our time of need, please help us have a special holiday memorial for our daughter. Your help will be heartfelt and greatly appreciated. All donations will go towards our family to relieve the financial pressures we face right now, and towards our holiday to mark our daughters 1st year of death.
Thank you for reading our story.
All donations will go towards our family to relieve the financial pressures we face right now, and towards our holiday to mark our daughters 1st year of death.
If we raise above we will put it towards a plaque at the cemetery
2020 update 9 January 2020
Hi everyone, first I would like to thank everyone for your kind and generous donation so far.
We still have a little way to go, I ask you to please share our page on your social media to help us reach our goal.
Our first Christmas without our daughter was very hard, lonely and empty. We had no offers from family or friends to spend it with them, so we spent it alone, and my mother spent the day with us which was nice.
A week before my father sent my children a Christmas card saying by the time they get it, him and his wife will be living in Australia.
So that was nice to be told in that way.
When I need emotional support from my dad he abandoned me, it's the 4th time he has done this to me since I was 9 years old.
Anyway. The cancer mass was removed from hubby, he has one less testicle now, he is under close observation now , and not clear just yet, however we are certainly remaining positive. He will be attending appointments, getting bloods and seeing his specialist for the next 5 years, unfortunately with testicle cancer if it comes back it usually comes back to the stomach! Hence why we remain under specialist care.
Yes life is hard for us, last year was a crap year for us and so many others.
I hope you all had a safe transition into 2020.
Please keep sharing our page and help us reach our target.
And again thank you to all that have helped, donate, share, have us in your thoughts xx
Thank you for your very generous donation. Our first Christmas without our angel was very hard. We did spend it alone this year , it was empty . Hope your Christmas was festive
Hey you lot, we miss having you as our neighbors, it feels like only yesterday our children were walking through the hedge to hang out with each other. Thank you for your kind donation we truly appreciate your help xx
Thank you for your extremely kind donation, it means alot to us as a family. We appreciate your help.
Thank you very much for your kind donation, we miss them.good old days. Fond memories for sure. It would be nice to all catch up again. Again thank you xxx
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