Support baby Estelle - Stu’s memorial

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Given by 151 generous donors in around 4 months

Stu was tragically taken just weeks before becoming a father. He leaves behind his newborn daughter Estelle who needs your help.

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Karee and Stu were just four weeks from welcoming their baby daughter to the world when Stu died suddenly and tragically in his sleep.

Stu McPherson was a sports fanatic, a TV producer and a great New Zealander. Stu was also a very excited first-time father who couldn't wait to meet his princess.

Tragically he was taken from us way too soon. After undergoing minor surgery on his shoulder two days earlier, Stu fell asleep watching rugby on TV and didn't wake up.

His fiancé Karee was 35 weeks pregnant with their first child at the time of his death and is now navigating motherhood as a solo parent without the emotional, physical or financial support of her loving partner. Sadly Stu died without life insurance.

On July the 5th little Estelle was born at Auckland Hospital. She is beautiful happy baby but sadly she will never meet her father; being born just 30 days after he passed away. She will never hear him tell her that he loves her and will never be able to hold her daddies hand.

Karee and Estelle were fully relying on Stu to provide for the family financially while Karee took maternity leave. While nothing will ever bring back Stu by providing some financial support we are able to ensure that Estelle is given a good start to life and that Karee can focus on their well-being over the first critical months of Estelle’s life.

Please help so that Stu's daughter's early days are supported as best we can without her loving father.

Karee and Estelle would like to wish their sincere thanks to family and friends who have been so supportive and to members of the Remuera Golf Club and College Riffles for their ongoing love and support. Through the sleepless nights with a newborn knowing we have a community around us is helping us to stay positive and to try and enjoy this special time which has been so heavily clouded by grief and uncertainty about the future.

Use of funds

With Karee on Mat leave, and the main income provider passed away, we want to ensure that Stu’s family have basic financial stability until she is able to return to work.

Funds raised will be spent on essentials like nappies, clothing, food, and housing.

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Thank you from Stu, Karee and baby Estelle  30 August 2021

Posted by: Karee Oates

It has been three months since the wonderful Stu passed away. As I write that it feels totally surreal. It feels both like a lifetime ago and like it happened yesterday. The three months following his death have been bittersweet. My grief has been extremely intense. Following his death, we were surrounded by loving friends who helped me navigate the first few weeks of my life without him and supported me through the last few weeks of my pregnancy.

Estelle was born four weeks after his death and she is a happy healthy little girl. Giving birth to my beautiful girl knowing that my partner Stu who loved her so much would never get to meet her was extremely difficult but that didn't take away from meeting her for the first time was simply the best moment of my life.

Estelle is eight weeks old today. She is an absolute joy. I look at her and smile with a full heart. Sometimes however I look at her and cry knowing that no matter how much I love her there will always be a big whole in her life.

I have been so overwhelmed with the support our local community network of friends have shown since Stu's passing. We have appreciated all of the visits and phone calls to check in on us, the dinners people have dropped off, the kind gifts of homemade or passed down items of clothing and the thoughtful invitations to events to help us get out of the house. We have also appreciated the very generous donations made via this give a little page.

Your kindness has allowed our family to have the space to focus on our well-being and healing at this challenging time. It means I am able to stay home with Estelle for the first few months of her life without worrying about how we are going to cover the cost of our normal bills. This is so helpful and has provided stability at a time we needed it most. Without this help I would have had no choice but to head back to work within weeks of giving birth while still working through my grief. I will be forever grateful for the opportunity to bond with my daughter. Stu would be so sad that he has left us and so comforted to know that his girls don't only have each other but that they have a wonderful community. It real takes a village to raise a child, thank you for being part of our village.

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Frankie & Melanie
Frankie & Melanie 2 days ago
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Juliet
Juliet on 06 Sep 2021
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$100
Nick
Nick on 27 Aug 2021
On behalf of The Eden Park Trust and staff, we send our condolences to you, Karee, on the loss of Stu. A member fundraiser was held at the first Bledisloe match at Eden Park on 7 August. We know Stu was an avid rugby fan; he was certainly in our thoughts on that day.
$4,000
Keith & Glenda
Keith & Glenda on 15 Aug 2021
Lovely to meet you & Estelle last night, Karee. Our hearts go out to you 💕
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Guest Donor
Guest Donor on 07 Aug 2021
Thinking of you Karee, I hope your first few weeks with your wee one are going well xxx
$200

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