SHE'S OUT ON SUPPORTED BAIL. NOW WHAT?
15 May 2018
It was a wicked day yesterday for a few reasons:
1) I went to court yesterday & one of my young people I've been engaged to do a 15 hour tailored programme with got out on supported bail. Yusss! So now the programme begins 'on the outs', as they say.
She's 15, has one heckuva story, like...big, & we're gonna make a jacket for us to sell so she can earn her own phone, make more plates with stories on them so she can relate while she creates, teach her creative computer skills, get her acting lessons (she's an actor waiting to be discovered, has brilliant memory retention & has a little of that hustler sass to her) for acting opportunities as well as to teach her how to back herself when it comes to employment opportunities/interviews (she freaks as soon as she's put in the spot)). And we're also doing 'I am..' statements so she knows who she is and places value on what she has to offer (need to work on her self worth).
2) My 20yr old son, Izaac & I did a FacebookLive on communication. This guy has some serious wisdoms, which is why I forced him to do these FBLives (not without a lotta resistance. I yelled at him how lucky he is he will never have to experience what my kids & I have experienced, that he's been blessed with two parents who love & accept him, who give him space to be his own person..oh. I'm 'Banging on'. Soz about that). And he came out with some pearlers!
This: 'Communication is a two-way street...nobody ever communicated down a one-way street. That's just one person telling the other person what they think'. I mean, BOOM!
But this is the thing, YOU get to SEE who I am, what I know, what my kids get, and why I want to keep doing this work. And my own son is my best example of my work, isn't he? I don't know what he'll say. He could undo my illusion on how I work, and what could I do about it on a live? You wanna see my work? You wanna understand what my kids get when they work with me? It's all there, on facebook lives.
Check it out here:https://www.facebook.com/amandabettsnz/
And if you think I've just started this whole idea of honest talk, check out the one take of izaac staying 'what's the biggest challenge facing teens today?' back when he was 17. Hint: BLAME: https://youtu.be/k2t-uIsj7aI
Doing these FBLives tells me that people, especially our kids actually need access to more inspiring, tough, strong, resilient, adapatable, understanding people who walk the walk and have experienced what they've been through. I mean, would you take advice from someone who hasn't been through what you're asking advice on? How can we help these guys who have been thrust a$$ first (often through no fault of their own) among the midst of chaos, crisis & trauma by sending in 'professionals' who have never experienced what they have? It's a respect thing. You can not hear from who you don't respect. And BOOM! There it is again. You can not communicate with someone who doesn't know how to communicate, always resorts to the same tactics when it comes time to express what's going on for them or that you have no respect for.
Anyway, check it, and more, out. I'm gonna own it and say I guarantee you will get something out of it. If you don't, tell me how wrong I am or I'll give you your money back you donated.
Please spread the word. All I want is to give equal access to resources, people and opportunities to as many people as possible. Pretty simple stuff, really.
Check out Amanda Betts Public Figure & Bridge The Gap Project if you haven't already, & tune into some of the other lives about boundaries, how to read the signs, how to ask for what you want, forgiveness & more.
And take a moment to go like my pages. I'm putting myself out there for OUR people, our future. There's certainly easier ways to make a living than this, I can tell you.
Or maybe I listen to what many have said (it's too hard, we're too far gone) & go back to simply helping the privileged become more privileged? There's a lot less challenge to it, I get paid well & I don't have to deal with even a 1/4 of the $hit, blocks, laziness & slowness in action I currently do...
Loved & gratitude,
Amanda 💗💗🙏🏻
