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Comforting Rachael in her time left

  • Final funds update

      13 July 2025

    Hello All,

    Due to plans unforeseen by myself and other close friends, sadly Rachael didn't get her funeral she had wanted. Therefore the funds have not been used for this, as Rachael and I had discussed and planned. As the friend she left in charge, I have made the decision to donate the funds to the Nelson Tasman Hospice, who kindly and compassionately cared for Rachael, until her last breath. If anyone opposes this decision there is a 7 day window to request a refund, there will be no judgement from me. I will be donating the funds next weekend in Rachaels memory. I know the hospice will be truly grateful for the generous donation. Rachael couldnt speak highly enough of all who took such good care of her there. Heartfelt thanks again for your kind donations.

    May Rachael rest in the peace she so greatly deserves.

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    • 14/07/2025 by Fiona

      Love that you are donating to hospice xx

  • Final Update

      22 June 2025

    Hi everyone. Thank you again for your extremely kind and generous donations.

    Sadly I've been informed Rachael passed this morning. It was peaceful and painless which is all we could ask.

    The funds sadly didn't make it through for her to use but will be used to help her mum with funeral arrangements.

    Thank you all again #RememberRachWithRed

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    • 23/06/2025 by Charlie

      Sending love to Rachael’s family. She was a great friend as kids, she’ll be well remembered. I’m heartbroken and feel honoured to have know Rachael ❤️❤️.

  • Update June 4th

      4 June 2025
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    Hi everyone. Alex here. Thank you all so so much for your kind and generous donations. Over the weekend Rachael has entered into a hospice for her end of life care. She wanted me to pass on her love to you all. Now that she is so close to the end, she has requested for the funds to be used to cover her funeral costs so there is no financial burden on her family. Thank you again and #RememberRachWithRed.

    Given the change in circumstance, if you'd like to request a refund, please get in touch with Givealittle at helpdesk@givealittle.co.nz by next Wednesday, 11th of May. Otherwise, funds will be used to fund funeral costs. Thanks – Givealittle team

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    • 05/06/2025 by Fiona

      I am so sorry to see this update, but I would love my donation to go towards helping friends and family navigate such a tough time. Sending lots of love and gentle virtual hugs 🌽🌽🌽

  • Lil Update Part 1 xx

      22 May 2025
    Posted by: Rachael Duff

    Firstly, I’m so sorry if this doesn’t make sense! I’m not 100% with it but wanted desperately to post and update!

    And secondly, I’m so sorry for the ramble, you all know I’m incapable of NOT writing a novel! 😜

    Here goes..

    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

    I’m so incredibly blown away and overwhelmed with all the love and support I’ve received, since opening up and sharing “my journey” with those of you who don’t know me IRL!

    My beautiful friends and family who know me personally, know I’ve been battling this incredibly horrible and insidious illness for over 25 years and the fight has been an extremely difficult one.

    I’m so incredibly sad that this - End of Life/Palliative Care is where I am and it’s been very difficult to navigate my “new normal”

    I’m very confused most of the time and not “myself” and obviously extremely exhausted and bed bound..

    I’m terrified about what’s to come and feel very lonely despite having the best care and all these amazing, beautiful people who seem to care about me??

    What is this impact I seem to have made?

    All my nurses have loved me instantly too and said I have that “special something” that draws people to me, like a special light or something.

    …what is that?!

    I just can’t believe it but surely ALL these people can’t be lying to me?!

    I’m so overwhelmed but so so grateful that you even think of me!

    Please keep messaging me!

    Your beautiful words bring me such comfort during such a scary time!

    Stand by caller..

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    • 23/05/2025 by Amy Alexander

      Rachel we briefly met at New World some years ago, I recognised your oh so familiar illness as I too suffered for 25+ years now 42yrs old I’m finally finding peace with it and a new acceptance of myself, healthy is attractive tho at times very scary and surreal! I have up and down days which is so much better then taking the back seat in my life. My personality is bright and bubbly, I too have a radiance and energy that draws people in, when in the depths of ED it was likely a vulnerability this sweet girl with so much potential and my subconscious need to please and remain sick which was not my nore is it your fault! Now it comes in a different way a much more effective absorption into every neurone one where lights are brighter then when once they were nearly completely dim to non existent. I feel for you, I’d like to meet with you, FaceTime or even meet with your family as I’m sure they are much like mine were. Email amyalexanderyes@gmail.com much love Amy

  • Lil Update Part 2 xx

      22 May 2025
    Posted by: Rachael Duff

    I’m so sorry if I can’t reply, but I do always read them and try and hit an emoji so you know I have.

    This generosity you’ve all shown me is absolutely incredible and I feel extremely undeserving and unworthy of your kindness!

    I don’t think I’ll ever be able to express how truly grateful I am for every dollar, beautiful message and check in, and every kind thought that has been sent my way.

    You don’t know what this means to me and is so needed.

    You are all such wonderful, selfless people

    And how AMAZING are these two weird and wonderful communities we’ve built together?!

    So many “internet friends” who have become real life friends!

    We really do belong to something truly special!

    And to all my people who actually know me, I hope you know how much I love and adore you all and wish you could all come and see me for a big (gentle) cuddle!

    I will try to update as often as I can but please don’t forget about me! And don’t forget to think about me if you ever have or see red nails xxx

    #RememberRachWithRed ❤️❤️

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