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Raising funds to send displaced Ukrainian teenagers to Outward Bound

  • T minus 2 days - update part 1 of 2 parts

      29 June 2023
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    Unfortunately, they could not find a driver this time. It has become too dangerous to move people across the Odessa region.

    The girls were bitterly disappointed as they had been on the list for 9 months, working hard in English speaking lessons with me twice a week, to prepare.

    They are staying positive and they do realise that they have already achieved something pretty remarkable, getting their English language skills to the point where they have gone from one or two basic words such as “hello” and “goodbye”, to being able to hold conversations about the weather, school, activities they are interested in, movies, hobbies and their career aspirations etc. One of them even got some Maths coaching from my husband, when they were stuck on a problem. That's pretty advanced!

    Some kids depart from Sibiu, some from Brasov. My trusted contacts are helping by driving the kids to personally drop them off.

    The kids are all excited, a little nervous but the thing they all have in common is a deep sense of gratitude for the opportunity you have provided to them. They know this will be very good for them and their guardians have sent me many messages of thanks, coupled with genuine astonishment that a community of people in far away New Zealand care this much about their kids and the future of their sovereign nation.

    So, THANK YOU!

    Heather B

    P.S I don't expect to receive photos from the course but if I do, I'll post them in one last update before the page closes in two weeks.

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    • 30/06/2023 by Rosalind

      I will be thinking about these young ones for the next 10 days, and look forward to hearing about their accomplishments. I know they will be fine and will make you proud. Well done for finding the right leader and the logistics of buying the kit they need and getting them to the Centre. You are amazing.

  • T minus 2 days - update part 1 of 2 parts

      29 June 2023

    Hi everyone,

    They are almost on their way. Departure date is this Saturday

    All of the equipment/clothing has been purchased, hiking boots should have been worn in by now, all systems go!

    We raised enough money for 5 kids plus a youth leader (herself a Ukrainian refugee) to do the course with them, encourage them and provide moral support, where required.

    Anna and Polina, the two teenage girls are 17 and 18. Neither of them have a guardian/parent with them in Romania.

    I do not know why this is the case for one of the girls, but I do know that the mother of the other girl passed away a couple of years ago, just before the war started. Her father stayed in Ukraine, to fight.

    These two girls replace two that were originally earmarked to attend. Both had to pull out in the last two weeks. One had to return home to the Kherson region, to help evacuate a grandparent from her flooded home after the Nova Kharkovka dam was destroyed.

    The other girl was temporarily back home in Mykolaiv, east of Odessa on the Black Sea, in Southern Ukraine. Since arriving home, missile strikes have started back up in Odessa and the surrounding towns. As a result, this girl and her mother could not find a driver to take them back to Romania. Their car was gone when they returned to Ukraine and the trains and buses don’t operate long distances anymore. People rely on an industry of drivers that has popped up as a “for hire” evacuation service for the long journeys across borders.....to be continued

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  • T minus one week!

      25 June 2023

    All systems go in the final stages of organisation!

    The group head off July 1st, with three leaving from Sibiu and three from Brasov (both are cities in Transylvania) up to the mountains in Sovata, Northern Romania.

    They join a wider group on a bespoke course that has been created around their situation, titled “Diversity and Inclusion”.

    Alongside them will be teens sent by charities from Hungary, France and Portugal, teens experiencing a range of challenges including poverty induced homelessness, racial/ethnic disadvantages and mental or physical impairments.

    With your incredible contribution, we raised enough for three boys and two girls to attend, along with their 25 yr old leader, Kateryna, also a Ukrainian refugee. The course is conducted in English (our Ukrainian group has been furiously studying for this over the last 9 months)

    Each country group has a youth leader who speaks their language and, in the case of our Ukrainian rep, understands what it is like to be a refugee.

    Speaking the same language is one vitally important component and to have her understand not only what it is like to hold “temporary protection” status in Romania and what their lives are now like, but also the full range of emotions and reactions these kids may experience on camp, that cannot be matched.

    As such, I’m grateful (and relieved!) to have found her.

    I’ll tell you about the kids (with photos) in my next update mid-week. Givealittle word count restrictions are too tight, for me!

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  • T minus 3 weeks

      10 June 2023

    Hi everyone,

    It's now crunch time. We have a course locked in for 2-11 July. The teens will travel to Sovata on July 1.

    Everything is about as on track as it could possibly be, save for the things that remain outside my control. I find the organisational approach and communication styles are quite different in Romania, at least compared to how we go about doing things here in NZ. Entirely understandable given the fairly recent communist rule that only came to an end in 1989.

    A course has been built around teens from different European countries, all facing difficulties e.g. mobility, refugee status, poverty and some coming from war torn areas too. One of our teens had to return to Ukraine for family reasons and will travel back to Romania for the course. She is 14, so her mother is coming back with her and will stay at the refugee centre in Brasov, where I volunteered, awaiting her return.

    Focus for the next few days is on two key areas.

    Firstly, transport/safety.

    Secondly, finding the youth leader to accompany them.

    We raised $11924.37 (after Givealittle take their fees) which is a truly fantastic effort, thank you everyone!

    I have a bunch of people I now know and trust, because of my time in Romania. Some of them are heading out with the teens to buy camping/hiking clothing and kit next week, so they can wear their boots in, in time. Such a great help to me!

    For some, it will be the first time they've had anything new since they fled Ukraine well over a year ago.

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    • 12/06/2023 by Morag

      Such a great initiative Heather. Your Give a Little has been a "Give such a Lot" for these amazingly resilient Ukranian teenagers and will be a pivotal moment in their lives for sure. Make the most of this kids, "there is more in you".

    • 13/06/2023 by Rosalind

      Fantastic news Heather. Those young people will be in my thoughts for the next few weeks as they prepare to go to Outward Bound Romania. It will be a mixture of anxiety and excitement I am sure, but I know they will do you proud.

  • Extending closing date

      31 May 2023

    So that the page will still be live and able to include updates when the course is taking place.

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  • Update on course organising...and a little bit of culture

      2 May 2023
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    Outward Bound Romania are working on confirming an international course for July, to fit in with the summer holidays, avoiding school exams etc.

    Given the reduced number of suitable (and available) teenagers for the course, we have opted to try to push ahead with 3-4 fully paid attendees and try to lock that course in, rather than wait for more funds to try and include more teenagers. If we wait, we cannot confirm the course and then might miss out on those slots.

    We currently have enough funds for three teenagers and presently on track to be able to afford four. We are on track.

    These teenagers will form part of the international course, with participants from around the world, speaking English as their common language. The course will be held in English but every participant will have English as their second language.

    We will still have a dedicated liaison/support person for the Ukrainian participants. The person we have found speaks Russian. Russian is a language many of the kids already speak and the rest will be able to understand it well enough to get by.

    My “English speaking club” (1:1 English language lessons for refugees living at the centre where I volunteered) has been going for a year now.

    Two of the proposed Outward Bound participants are students in those speaking clubs.

    It absolutely astounds me, how far they have come in their understanding of the language. From a simple “hello” one year ago, to present day being able to hold decent conversations with me without the need to reach for translation apps every minute. They can even joke with me in English, on occasion, and have developed the ability to wrap their heads around some of the more bizarre, seemingly nonsensical idiosyncrasies of how we form sentences and the words we use across multiple meanings. I am confident that the work they have put in means these kids will be fine on the Outward Bound course.

    It will still be very challenging for them, but they will have a little more confidence knowing that they have a good understanding of basic English.

    With the ever-changing landscape of the war, the availability of the teenagers remains fluid, so it’s actually hard to get a full course of Ukrainians, even if we could raise the money required. Here are two scenarios we’ve encountered recently, Firstly, some women have been making plans to go back to Ukraine to pick up elderly parents who initially stayed behind.

    Secondly, temporary protection rights in Ukraine’s neighbouring countries don’t last forever and some end up going further afield. It’s hard to lock in attendance in Romania for these teenagers when their Mums don’t know what their plans will look like and what their location will be even a few weeks into the future, let alone a few months.

    If the situation changes and we are unable to make the course happen, or any of the teenagers become unavailable at the last minute (too late to be substituted), we will revert to plan B. That is, to transfer the money to a comparable activity/camp for them, use the money for customised courses/training, or donate the funds to the refugee centre to be benefit all children and teens staying at the facility.

    Side note - Mum and I went to the Kyiv Ballet in Napier last week. The ballet company is touring NZ and Australia at the moment.

    Their narrator mentioned that they were in France when the war broke out and their President asked them to stay touring, rather than returning for those of fighting age (18-60) to prepare to take up arms.

    By asking them to stay out of Ukraine, Zelensky now has them sharing Ukraine’s art and culture with all of us, presumably so that the world may learn more about the country and maintain an awareness of the plight of their people.

    They’ve so far toured Sweden, Norway, Poland, the US and now down under.

    The first act was a traditional Ukrainian showpiece created 75 years ago and one that had not been performed outside the country before the war.

    It was a wonderful show and the ticket proceeds are going to the war effort.

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  • Speeches and fundraising

      24 February 2023

    Big thank you must go to Rosalind Chapman for the hard work she put in organising a fundraising dinner/speaking event for this cause.

    And thank you to all of her contacts at ZONTA and those within the christian community in Feilding who attended the church event, or donated.

    They had to push ahead without me because the aftermath of Cyclone Gabrielle had me stuck in the Hawke's Bay. They did a wonderful job and I really appreciate it.

    Off to speak to Rotary Havelock North and Ahuriri next week. Both of these clubs are local in the Hawke's Bay, so we shouldn't suffer any disrupts.

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  • Transport costs donated

      19 January 2023

    Romanian country officials are covering the cost of transportation for the teenagers. We will also receive a little of the tramping gear, so the new figure reflects both these changes. As the course is still a few months away I have extended the page expiry date to the end of March.

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  • Photo...

      31 December 2022
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    ...of Ukrainian flag coloured balloons at dance performance, per my written update

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    • 03/01/2023 by Morag

      What a great job Masha! The blue and gold scarves are in our entrance way and remind me of sunflowers, wheatfields and blue skies every time I pass.

  • Photo...

      31 December 2022
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    ...of Christmas decorations per my written update

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  • Photo...

      31 December 2022
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    ....of Christmas dance performance - per my written update

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  • New Year fundraising update

      31 December 2022
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    Hi all,

    A short update to follow (you'll probably be done in the time it'll take to down half a glass of wine, if you are already getting into the festive cheer of NYE)

    I have three fundraising type events to speak at during Jan and Feb, which I’m really looking forward to. Hoping to get three more in the calendar so that I can make the most of my time back in NZ before I return to Romania.

    A big shout out must go to Freddie and Henry Cato, two young boys in Feilding who managed to raise a massive $117.70. They’d been able to earn money by doing jobs for people and they also sold a lot of Feijoas.

    I understand some of their friends may also have helped out. Great job boys….THANK YOU!

    The Ukrainian teenagers have access to the site now, so they can see the money coming in.

    They can’t quite believe that people in little old NZ would help them in this way.

    I have added some photos of some of the refugee centre, decorated with handmade Christmas decorations and a display of gift-wrapped cardboard boxes, all made by the Ukrainian mums. They had a real tree which was dubbed the “wishing tree” for people to hang a personal note containing their wish for the future.

    It is a new thing for many Ukrainians to celebrate the Gregorian calendar Christmas of Dec the 25th. Many Orthodox Ukrainians have decided to observe Christmas day on Dec 25th, like many Christians around the world. The leaders of their Orthodox Church of Ukraine have approved the move.

    For most people, changing the dates represents a separation from Russia, its culture and its religion. Some still observe their traditional Jan 7th date, so that just means that they get to keep the decorations up at the refugee centre until late Jan, which I’m sure the kids are loving!

    The pictures of the wee kids in traditional costume are from a dance event they put on for the local Romanians. One of the teenagers we hope to send to Outward Bound had been studying jazz and ballet in Ukraine. Masha (diminutive of Maria/Marie and pronounced Marsha) has been teaching the boys and girls at the refugee centre.

    They put together a performance just before Xmas, with costumes their family members (mostly Grandparents) sent over from Ukraine.

    Happy New Year! Wishing you all a great year ahead.

    Thanks so much for the support you’ve given me.

    Heather B

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  • Casting the net wide

      24 October 2022

    Hello! I hope everyone is enjoying a relaxing labour weekend.

    Thank you to everyone who has donated to this cause so far. I have a long way to go, but I’m making steady progress towards the goal and I am very grateful to have your support.

    I am now back in New Zealand.

    I was approached to speak at a couple of schools in Hawke’s Bay and the Manawatu, to share my experience with some classes of children between the ages of 11 and 13. I loved my time with them! They asked such intelligent, incredibly insightful questions.

    If anyone has a local interest group and is looking for speakers on special interest topics, I’d love the opportunity to come and talk about the reasons behind wanting to help these youngsters via an Outward Bound experience.

    Since arriving home, I have discovered that there are a lot of things in our house that we don’t need or don’t use much. I’ve been beating a path to the door of cash converters over the last week, to convert these into Outward Bound funds. It is satisfying enough, just to be spring cleaning and decluttering the house, but the money is a real bonus!

    I’m so pleased I’d not thought to do this before I became involved with Ukrainians, as we would have nothing left to sell now.

    The Romanian Outward Bound country director and I have decided to work on a joint proposal to European non-government organisations. It will help to explore more options, in case I can't raise enough funding in New Zealand.

    That may take time to get across the line. As such, we are starting the process now.

    If my NZ fundraising successfully raises the full amount, and European NGOs do also decide to contribute, we will use their assistance to expand to more courses. This war is unlikely to end any time soon and, if this experiment gives the results I’m expecting, having the ability to send more than the original dozen teenagers to Outward Bound would be a fantastic stretch goal.

    Thanks again everyone!

    Next update coming in the second half of November….

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    • 25/10/2022 by Rosalind

      Hi Heather, does this mean you would be available to talk with ZONTA now? Our next meeting (and final for the year) is Wednesday 16 November. I would still like to do something in Feilding as well, if you have the time. I am not sure if I am brave enough to let you loose on my garage though :) LOL. Rosxx

  • Planning sessions with the Outward Bound team in Romania

      5 September 2022
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    Recruitment phase is going well here in Romania, lots of kids interested and, most importantly, their guardians are open to it. They have been very keen to learn more about the opportunity and seem comfortable to let the kids go, at this early stage in proceedings.

    They recognise the need to do something a bit different, to help their kids and grandkids navigate these dark times and say that they are incredibly grateful that people from far away New Zealand are helping to fund this idea.

    I've identified 7 of the 11 suitable teenagers, so far. There are more than 11 interested, but I do have a screening process to go through before each one is confirmed as appropriate. They also need to be in the right age range so I've had to turn down a couple of 12 year olds as I have made the minimum age 13.

    I've left the refugee centre to go to Targu Mures for a couple of days, that's where the Outward Bound management team are based. Planning sessions with the Country Director and his team are going well.

    We've decided that October won't work for the course date. A number of emerging reasons behind this realisation. Fund raising not being successful enough, yet, so we need longer to achieve the result unless a large amount was to come in during September. The main issue though is one that has arisen in the last few weeks, relating to their education. The school situation for the teenagers has changed.

    They were due to start their classes this week, for the new school year. When they broke for the school holidays at the start of June, everyone still hoped the war would end "soon". Things have not improved, the war still rages, and their Ukrainian teachers are suffering the same instability they are. Some of those teachers were still in Ukraine for the last school year but have fled in recent months.

    We're not sure if their online classes can continue. They may have to join Romanian schools, taking classes in Romanian, a language they have developed only "tourist level" conversational skills, at best. The local mayor is also trying to open a Ukrainian school, as the most appropriate option. It's a very big ask and would require Ukrainian teachers (refugees) to be attracted to his town, for the kids to learn in their native language.

    There is a lot of uncertainty on the education front for these teenagers and it means a false start for the year. Not a good time to rip them out of class 3-4 weeks after the school year finally starts, especially if they are tackling the tough stage of starting at a Romanian school for the first time.

    Another challenge is the winter. If we don't do it in October, we need to avoid the harshest winter months that follow and to hold it when the weather improves. The Outward Bound school does hold courses during their harsh winters but it wouldn't be appropriate for this unique course. Many of these kids fled in the winter conditions and spent nights out in the open as they made their way to safety. From a psychological standpoint, I'm not comfortable putting them in situations that could trigger and re traumatise them.

    The survival type of activities are one thing, but the frigid conditions are a step too far. The school is in the mountains, making it the coldest part of Romania so that means April is the first appropriate month. They have end of year exams in April, meaning we're now looking at the course happening in the first two weeks of May.

    The Outward Bound school can accommodate that time frame and the kids and guardians have been advised.

    It was snowing last April, in the low lying area where I'm based, but it had stopped by the end of April. May will still be very cold in the mountains, but not abjectly uncomfortable as they won't be camping in the snow.

    You might be thinking, but what if the war is over by then? I have wondered the same. Wouldn't that be fantastic, if the kids were no longer able to take the course, because they were already reunited with their Dads, Uncles and Brothers. They'd have moved back to their homes in Ukraine, to restart their old lives or moved to a new village, town or city that hadn't been decimated, to start a new life.

    There will be two options available to those who have donated funds, if the course cannot go ahead, for any reason. This could be that we don't reach the required fundraising level, the war finishes and the kids go home, we don't make the minimum number of attendees to fill the course, adverse weather event has the Outward Bound school cancelling it etc etc

    Option 1.

    I can refund your donation, at the point of course cancellation, if you tell me that is your preferred option. Please let me know if that is your preferred option, by end of October 2022, by messaging me to this page so that I can plan accordingly.

    Option 2.

    I can use the funds to deliver some benefit to the same teenagers, in another form. e.g. pay for a shorter course/camp, closer to the location of the refugee camp. It wouldn't have the same focus on leadership, resiliency and communication skills but would still have activities they would surely enjoy. Alternatively, we could fund an educational course that we hold at the refugee centre, to complement their classroom education. If they are leaving to go back to Ukraine, in a peacetime scenario, I could put the funds towards them attending an adventure camp in their respective towns in Ukraine. If that just isn't feasible, due to the country's rebuild phase, we could give the money to their guardians to assist those family groups with costs associated to their reintegration into Ukraine.

    This was a long update, I know, but I wanted to give a full rundown for any interested parties. Next update will be next month.

    If you have any questions feel free to get in touch with me offline at hedaytch@yahoo.com

    Thanks for your continue interested in this cause!

    Heather B

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    • 06/09/2022 by Morag

      I am trying to win the lottery so this can truly happen! Well done H, you have a big heart.

    • 07/09/2022 by Rosalind

      Hi Heather, I am happy to leave my funds in for you to use as you see fit. Fingers crossed the funds increase and the course goes ahead in May 2023. Ros

  • Recruitment phase

      7 August 2022
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    Hi all,

    Over the next few weeks I will be trying to lock in the details of the course, on the ground here in Romania.

    Some of the activities will be tailored to the specific challenges these teenagers are facing. Some aspects need to be taken into consideration in order to avoid any emotional triggering. During the winter they endured some harrowing experiences, as they were forced to hide and then flee, so I want to make sure we are careful to consider all of the risks.

    I'll head up to the northern part of the country, to work with the head of Outward Bound Romania and the instructors at the school. I'll also be looking for our Ukrainian teacher/psychologist. This is the liaison person who will be on the course alongside them, providing support and language assistance.

    Down in Brasov, in the middle of Romania, and also in the capital city of Bucharest in the south, I plan to host info nights and have some 1:1 meetings there, with guardians of the teenagers. This will be an opportunity to explain the course, the benefits and seek their permission for the students to attend the school.

    They will need reassuring of the legitimacy of Outward Bound and to be comfortable with the plan, before they will allow their children to leave the refugee centre and travel some distance for this 10 day adventure. Fair enough too! It's a big ask and a high trust environment so I will spend as much time with them as they need, meeting as many times as required, to answer all of their questions.

    I may even take some guardians on an overnight trip to visit the school and staff, if needed.

    Thank you for your interest in this cause, I really appreciate the support.

    Thanks, Heather B

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