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Hiriwa's Encore

  • Hiriwa turns 30

      31 October 2022
    Posted by: Talia Wetere-Hepi
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    This wonderful man is now back in Whangārei hospital close to home and in the rehabilitation ward too!!

    With all this great news and progress this also meant that the girls were able to celebrate Hia birthday with him with cake and a lil bit of music.

    Hiriwa got to play Ayvas fave song while she sang for us and although it wasn’t up to his standard it was still a miracle to watch and made my heart all warm and fuzzy!!

    Hiriwa is such a super star and we are just so happy to be able to report this update.

    We have a 4 week plan in place to get him as mobile as possible and just maybe he’ll be walking through our front door by December 💕🙏🏽

    Lots of love to our peeps continuing to support our whanau.

    Life certainly has gotten a lil easier for the girls and I knowing Hiriwa is progressing and being back at kura and mahi but the pressure of running a home with just one parent at homeland some days it’s tricky!

    We are just grateful for all the positives 🏡😊💕

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    • 01/11/2022 by Matilda

      Thank you very much for the update and Hiriwa's progress.

      Prayers and love will continue to be sent to you Hiriwa and your beautiful girls.

      God bless.

  • Rehabilitation

      18 October 2022
    Posted by: Talia Wetere-Hepi
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    Heya whanau, friends and all you wonderful people who have supported is in some way..

    Hiriwa is absolutely smashing his rehab and already taking steps after over 14 weeks in bed.

    I just wanted to come through again and really just tell you all how soo grateful we are for your support and awhi through this time.

    Over 3 months in Auckland away from all things normal while we get this guy to where he is today has been huge in many ways and finances were always a niggling issue in the back of my mind but luckily for us and our amazing people I was able to really focus on Hiriwa and he was able to focus on him getting better.

    Over the last week we’ve managed to get out and about around the domain park and get some sunshine on his skin which was magic.

    We now have an update for what’s next for Hiriwa and we are clear now that the Bone Marrow transplant is the best chance he has at living normally so this is all in place to happen in December.

    What we weren’t ready for is that this will mean another 100 days in Auckland for him and us.

    We are yet to learn, plan and arrange logistics for this as the current focus is getting him home for a few weeks before the transplant happens.

    We hope to spend some good quality time together as a family for that time and then start planning for the next 4 months and what that might look like for our lil whānau.

    Again huge mihi to all of you!

    Hiriwa and I are indebted to so many of you and nothing has gone unnoticed.

    So much love to you all always xoxox

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  • Hemophagocytic Lymphohistiocytos

      28 August 2022
    Posted by: Talia Wetere-Hepi
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    Now try say it to the rhythm of supercalafragilisticexpialidocious 😮‍💨

    This is the rear disease Hiriwa has.

    Overview to date in as basic as I can.

    Hiriwa was operating very normally, daily he was working full time, jamming and practices from Tuesday-Friday every other week before he started to feel crook with vomiting, sweats and not being able to scratch his nose on July 7th; the day he went into hospital.

    That day the ER team attempted a lumber puncture twice to verify the meningitis that they thought he had- the meningococcal version was what they began to treat and my heart started racing as I sat there googling this disease and the possible outcomes.

    Friday Mōrena doctor arrives we hear: Crisis averted and now we need to focus on Hiriwas newly identified diagnosis: diabetes type 2.

    He gets moved to recovery ward and treated as a diabetic patient.

    By Tuesday Hiriwas body was not reacting well to the antibiotics and I was seeing a decline on his health to way worse off from when we initially came in.

    With lots of pushing and unanswered questions we decide to place trust in the medical lead on Hiriwas health case.

    Thursday he is beginning to look critical and still my questions shunned and Friday I’m pushing for them to move him off the antibiotics to seek further advice on what we can do to explore what’s happening to his body, cause the treatment they’re currently giving him is not working.

    Friday night he’s admitted to ICU, Sunday 4:30pm he goes to sleep, Monday he’s intubated and sedated into an induced coma.

    Monday arvo they’re treating him for stills.

    Completed a biopsy of his bone marrow and checking his heart for endocarditis.

    Wednesday results are very much HLH and we’re hopping in the helicopter to head to Auckland City Hospital because it’s the only place in NZ with the haemotology team he needs around him. (Grateful for the rescue helicopter)

    In DCCU from Wednesday to the following Friday.

    Now its 29th July.

    We take a breath and look up for the first time in a while.

    2 weeks and 2 days of physio and really positive signs that we are getting ontop of this and Hiriwas body randomly again goes begins to relapse where his haemoglobin drops below 20 and his temp spikes and all sorts of other symptoms.

    They take him for a gastroscopy and his bloods drop severely that they have to put a line straight onto his foot to get blood intk him quickly, they intubate him and sedate him to get it all under control.

    DCCU (department of critical care unit) in room 17 is his space for 7 days while they run another dialysis, keep him in a coma and manage his body and his levels to keep him going, keep him living for him and for us!

    24th August we’re back in Motutapu ward, his voice is not quite back after being intubated for a second time. His muscle deteriorated faster this time than last and we move to focusing on his breathing.

    He’s had a few transfusions each day. (Grateful for donors)

    28th August

    Today he is stable and breathing so well and talking!! He’s holding food down and they’re tracking well with his treatment for HLH.

    We’re sure that the etopiside and Dex are doing what they’re supposed to for his cells but they are affecting his guts and skin and muscle.

    The plan is still to get a donor my preference is faster than they currently are so we can get it into Hiriwas body.

    As we sit up here together daily reflecting and laughing and joking and listening to each other and sometimes just listening to silence we are so grateful for our love and each other.

    We are also planning lots of things for when we are out of this temporary stage of life and look forward to sharing more of our lives with each other and those we love.

    Always grateful and always pushing!!

    Arohanui xox

    Pic is view from his room at night

    In Motutapu.

    https://www.hematologyandoncology.net/archives/november-2012/secondary-hemophagocytic-lymphohistiocytosis-in-adults-an-update-on-diagnosis-and-therapy/

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  • Bump in the road

      20 August 2022
    Posted by: Talia Wetere-Hepi
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    I’m sitting out in the carpark after spending the Mōrena with Hiriwa preparing him to be Extubated for the second time.

    Tuesday evening Hiriwas body relapsed and his kidneys, liver, lungs, heart and bloods all stopped working.

    We were just so lucky that we were in hospital and close to the experts when it all happened.

    They had to intubate him and sedate him so that they could control his breathing and keep him alive.

    My heart broke when the doctor and nurse came back up to haemotology to tell me that the gastroscopy he had gone for had sent his body into a shock and that he was back in ICU and intubated.

    I got down to see him and sat with him will 1:30am Wednesday Morning where they attempted to stabilise him but his kidneys were deteriorating rapidly so at 3am they phoned to let me know that they also needed to get him back on dialysis as his blood was becoming too acidic.

    For the first time in the last 7 weeks I called up in a ball and cried.

    It was all to much to hear and realise and I couldn’t help but think it was all too much for his body to do all over again.

    The next Mōrena I dusted myself off and prepared for all the progress we were about to tune into. And Wednesday was full of positives.

    Thursday all his vitals were inclining and he woke up and Friday they were testing him for signs to extubate which they have today.

    He asked me where his girls, guitar and phone were… 😂

    Again this road is long, it’s bumpy and treacherous but he is such a ‘soldier’ as his dad called him today and he has pushed through again.

    Emotionally I’m pretty drained, frustration was rearing it’s little head this week around ‘how did this happen?’ We are still learning of the reasons as all roads have led to nowhere and the only real evidence is that it’s this HLH causing his body to react this way and not the invisible infection.

    Sorry I’ve been slack on updates but I know many people are following to see how my darling is doing and I am sorry if I’ve not replied to you. Updating here helps to keep you all in the loop.

    Update re bone marrow: Hiriwas mum and our specialist have been working to get his brothers in Melbourne checked to see if they are a match in which case they may be able to donate some of their bone marrow to Hiriwa to help him to live somewhat normally!!

    So grateful!

    Lots of love 💕

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    • 25/08/2022 by Matilda

      I'm so very sorry to hear this setback for Hiriwa. Sending so much Love and Prayers. You are a beautiful strong Soul. God Bless

  • Stop.Pivot.Hold.Run

      17 August 2022
    Posted by: Talia Wetere-Hepi
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    When I think of the last few months I think roller coaster, when others impress thier view of the last few months I think it’s much the same.

    But when I break it down these are some of the tactical plays I’ve implemented to get me through those really hard bits.

    STOP

    This is when I stop and cast my vision to the future, to what will be for us and for our whanau.

    PIVOT

    This is what I do when I can feel my vision altering or swaying from what the positive future that lies ahead of us.

    It’s also what I do when all the negative seeds start coming in my direction - the ‘we need to go back to the reality of Hiriwas situation’ ‘he is a very sick man’ ‘you need to prepare for him to not make it’ ya know those comments, the ones I shun to the side cause my mans ‘the man’ ‘he’s just going through a really hard time right now’ ‘ but he’s got this, he has so many reasons to live and too much to fight for’ that’s when I pivot.

    HOLD

    Hold onto those thoughts and exhale the seeds of fear. I hold tight to the visions of him walking back through our front door to our own home where his babies will be there to welcome him home with open arms and pinky promises kept!

    RUN

    That’s when I let my heart and my soul pour a never ending amount of love into him. Allowing this to run free and run wild.

    Run like there is nothing that can stop us, run without looking back, run vicariously so that he can sense the wind on his face and know that we will be outside soon!

    He is stable, he is strong and he is determined!

    We got you my baby!!

    We’ve all got you xox

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    • 19/08/2022 by Matilda

      So much Love and strength felt in this korero and right from the start girl. Hiriwa has got this, with you being by his side, being his backbone with the reflection of your Love surrounding him. Sending loads of love and prayers. Tilly

  • Hiriwas Encore 🤩

      14 August 2022
    Posted by: Talia Wetere-Hepi
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    Ok I’ve written two updates now and just before submitting the update I fall asleep and wake up and it’s gone ahhh

    They’ve also been so descriptive and specific but this one will look nothing like either of them haha

    ⁃ key focus is to get Hiriwa moving independently

    ⁃ His specialist is aiming to get him into the rehabilitation ward this week

    ⁃ His bloods and immunity are looking really good and Claire (his specialist) is stoked with his current medical condition. As are we!

    ⁃ He is booked in for a bone marrow transplant whilst we wait to get his results back from America on whether the HLH is primary familial (genetic) or secondary (cancer or infection induced)

    ⁃ His babies are missing him so so much and Ayva keeps making him pinky promise through the video call ‘that we will all be back together as a whanau soon’

    ⁃ We are both still just completely overwhelmed by the love that has been shown to us through this time

    ⁃ He is an absolute miracle and we feel like we are prepared for whatever needs to happen from now due to our whanau who have wrapped around us.

    ⁃ Since Hiriwa has been doing some supported standing lately his nurses are surprised how tall he is.

    ⁃ He has lost alot of weight 30kgs to be exact (I think I may found some of that weight Damn it)

    I think that’s everything.

    Oh no last thing…..to the Whangārei music community who pulled off something that we could have never imagined especially Maggie Coco who initiated the Hiriwas encore events.

    And Brodz who made the name 😂

    THANK YOU from the bottom of our hearts!

    Lots of love, Hiriwa, talz and girls xoxox

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    • 15/08/2022 by Matilda

      Awesome news, thank you for the updates. Sending big love and prayers to you Hiriwa, girls and Whanau 💖

  • Bit of a spruce

      4 August 2022
    Posted by: Talia Wetere-Hepi
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    Yesterday Hiriwa was able to hold himself up so they manoeuvred him into a chair where he was able to move around the ward.

    He had a shower today and even got a haircut!!

    After 7 days in haematology ward as of tomorrow the nurses and docs are amazed at this mans progress.

    He’s continuing to fight for his babies and I’m right here by his side to motivate him at every step!

    We welcome the physio team every second day, dieticians weekly and doctors daily to continue ti guide him to recovery. Recovery of his physical being and him and I have been taking care of the mental recovery.

    I love our communication and accuracy in our determination for the same things, this haerenga has certainly strengthened us beyond words.

    These next phases have have only been made slightly easier because of the korero we can now have, hope is still strong but man the mind can work some magic.

    Again just so much love for everyone, we can be so proud and grateful for our communities coming together globally and in Whangārei and for just wrapping ya love around us like you have!

    It’s been the blanket of Hope I’ve held on so tight to over the last month.

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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  • Motutapu

      1 August 2022
    Posted by: Talia Wetere-Hepi
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    Kia ora e te whanau,

    Wow, the doctors believe Hiriwa is a miracle and cannot believe he has not only pulled through this but that he is recovering well and so much better than they expected.

    Over the last few days I have seen the power of his strong mind, prayers and Atua in full force as he has extended conversations with the docs and I.

    The treatment has taken its toll on his body as imagined but the physio’s are working their magic too.

    He has been telling me about some of the flashbacks from different rooms and nurses he keeps having. Some ok some not ok.

    I’ve been slowly reading back over messages and reading them aloud to him.

    The steroids are playing some games with him and he is slowly learning to manage those alongside his emotions.

    He feels ya love and so do I!

    With him being awake and wayyy more present I may start to provide less lengthy updates but I have felt is the least I could do to show gratitude for your love for him through this time.

    The road ahead will be pretty long and no doubt treacherous.

    They’ve since sent away his bloods to America for testing of this HLH so they can get clear about the reasons it has shown in his body and so we can understand the ‘best’ plan forward for him and our lil whānau!

    Just a special shout out to my Mama, sister, brother in law, brothers and sister in law and my Daddio for holding it down in Whangārei.

    I cant wait to cuddle our babies soon and if you all know me I’m such a maternal mama however it’s been an absolute necessity that I was able to focus completely on Hiriwa and I’m just soo sooo grateful for our village!

    Shout out also to the girls schools who have so supported them through this also, so much ❤️.

    To our babies, you are amazing!! Xoxox

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    • 02/08/2022 by Matilda

      Thank you very much for updates, so much love, blessings and prayers to Hiriwa, you and your beautiful girls. Still sending love and prayers. Tilly ❤️🙏

  • Whiti te ra

      29 July 2022
    Posted by: Talia Wetere-Hepi

    This handsome king of ours has all his organs working how they should today.

    He is no longer being supported by Dialysis, no more central with 5 lines for all the medications he required to keep him alive and most of you will be happy to know he has been mocking his nurse this Mōrena with what little words he is saying.

    His breathing has been supported since Extubation day but overnight he’s improved enough to have high flow only.

    Because the meds he now will require can be given orally or through an IV line, they are looking to move him to the haematology ward TODAY!!!

    The specialists will be on the ward working directly with him for the next 8 weeks while they manage the HLH and get him as strong as possible.

    He has been overwhelmed with emotion the last few days with the realisation that he has survived. I keep telling him he is a miracle and I can feel his grip tighten and eyes soften.

    I honestly can not express how grateful I am for all the love honestly it’s times like these you just wouldn’t wish this shut on anyone- the emotions are out of this world and you don’t know how you’ll react or behave until you’re in it.

    I can say I’ve felt every emotion, heard every prayer, poured all your love and my energy into this man and I wouldn’t have been able to do that without the amazing support we have had from soooo soo many!

    You are our angels and I love you unconditionally.

    Wish we could make the #hiriwasencore night next Friday!! I’m sure his peeps will put on a great show!

    Tihei Māori ora! 💙😮‍💨

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    • 29/07/2022 by Matilda

      There's a miracle in itself, I am so happy and excited to hear Hiriwa is improving strongly. More love and prayers are sent to him❤️

  • Extubation Day!

      27 July 2022
    Posted by: Talia Wetere-Hepi
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    Day 20 in hospital

    Day 11 in ICU

    Kia ora e te whanau,

    Hiriwa has progressed again today 💚

    The small steps have been remarkable and in the scheme of things I would say Today is a Good day.

    Hiriwa is no longer breathing through a tube and the support he requires for his organs can be done intermittently rather than constantly. 🙌🏾

    Bits of his body are relearning how to operate again and we are seeing muscle memory in full force in some areas.

    He is such a bloody trooper who is aware a wee bit more of what’s taken place over the last week and with that there is the constant feeling of being overwhelmed.

    He’s resting heaps today to get his lungs to a state they need to be for everyone to feel a bit better about his breathing.

    Otherwise his organs are functioning and getting close to where they need to be.

    HLH treatment will continue til further notice.

    Leaps and bounds in such a short time.

    Just playing him Otiums new song which seems rather appropriate - Brand New!

    Heart of gratitude & so much aroha 💞

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    • 27/07/2022 by Matilda

      Sending mountains of love and prayers. Miracles are happening now Hiriwa.

    • 28/07/2022 by Paula

      Every day baby steps... any progress counts ❤

  • I believe in miracles 🙌

      25 July 2022

    Day 18 of hospitals

    Day 8 of comatose state

    Over the last 2 days we have seen such progress.

    They’ve stopped the dialysis, today removing the lines for that as well.

    Hiriwa is fighting so hard as are the doctors here in Tamaki and I’m feeling reassured by their decisions at each point.

    Today I am looking at a very different Hiriwa and it makes me so hopeful for a full recovery.

    We are focusing on recovery of one organ at a time and the HLH treatment is proving a success so far. It’s a mixture of steroids and chemo twice a week.

    The road is still long but very promising.

    Your koha, love, tributes, music, kai, gifts for our girls and prayers are not going unnoticed and we are just so so grateful for it all.

    With a lil more hope and fight we may be looking to remove his breathing devices over the next few days.

    Today he motioned that he ‘wants a drink’

    So hopefully he can soon.

    Lots of love!

    #hiriwasencore

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  • Update

      23 July 2022

    Hiriwa moved his eyelids, toes and looked at myself and a few whanau who visited today too!!

    This is a huge improvement from 2 days ago and makes my heart so so happy to report this update.

    Ayva saw her daddy today and sung him her favourite song, it was so beautiful and inspiring to watch strength and song exuberantly shine from her at this time💞

    Your love, messages, visits and prayers coupled with his strength as well as the fight this man has are all reasons we’ve got to here and I’m forever grateful.

    The outpouring of love for him is beyond words and we are moving in strides in the right direction today.

    #hiriwasencore

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  • Update

      21 July 2022

    We finally have a diagnosis and are thrilled that he is receiving the treatment for this in Tāmaki hospital.

    The journey will be a long one, described as a marathon by the doctor in ICU.

    The severity of this infection is life threatening on its own, however because Hiriwa had been misdiagnosed and treated for an infection (that they couldn’t find) with Vancmyson that has deteriorated his kidneys and now all of his organs have been affected including his lungs, heart, kidney, brain, bone marrow and liver as well.

    This auto immune disease is a hard one to identify but I am glad they finally have this to proceed forward with a plan.

    We are taking 2 days at a time.

    Hiriwa likes to be planned and prepared and hates surprises and anything random happening so this will be so out of his comfort zone, Im sure he’ll be happy to know ‘they now have a plan’.

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