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Rupert's request for his young family

  • 1 Week until this closes, 1 week until what would have been your birthday.

      1 July 2025

    Just one week until this closes on what would have been his birthday. Next week would have been his 41st birthday.

    In 6 weeks', time our baby turns one, 7 weeks' time our toddler turns four.

    The last 9 weeks have been some of most difficult of our lives, not only with our grief but with extra and unnecessary stress.

    I thank everyone for all the care, support, kind words and names to stories I've heard Rupert tell me a hundred times.

    I thank Rupert for the love and life we share and the beautiful babies that came to be because we met. They truly have at times been a saving blessing. I don't know what life looks like without him.

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  • Extending end date and setting a goal

      22 May 2025

    Hello lovely people,

    I have updated the closing date of this page and set a goal. Reason, it has been clear in the last few days that I need to prioritise my physical and emotional health so that I can support my children through the most heart-breaking thing ever. Our beautiful Bella has spent the last few days crying on and off for no reason, she seems to settle and be her smiling self when we are playing her build-a-bear message from Daddy. Hearing his voice seems to calm her.

    Our three-year-old is very similar, he walks around the house clinging to his, he changes between being highly emotional or hitting.

    Yesterday our 9year old had his first grief therapy session, he has Autism (recently diagnosed) and mixing between angry and tears.

    18-year-old is being stoic, while being extremely protective over me, watching me eat and fussing. Fine young man he is.

    I am beyond thankful for the support we have received so far.

    The majority is allocated to cover Rupert's funeral cost.

    Further support will allow me time to support the children and myself without the worry of trying to make ends meet.

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  • 3 weeks since you have been gone

      20 May 2025

    I am not totally sure what to write for this update but have been encouraged to write one.

    Again, a huge thank you to those that have donated or shared, your generosity is touching.

    The last three weeks have gone by as a blur while feeling like it was just yesterday but also another lifetime ago.

    I have been sharing stories with friends and family, telling the children stories about Rupert.

    I have been in physical pain for the last several weeks, thinking it was due to his absence, my grief I waited until the end of last week when it became more constant and intense. I went to get checked out, xrays, CT with contrast, ECG, ultrasound, blood work all of it. Doctors confirm my physical state is due to grief.

    Takotsubo cardiomyopathy is the likely cause, while there is minimal heart damage and it is still working well. Lossing him broke my heart.

    I continue to ask if you could please share his page. If you knew Rupert personally, I would love to collect stories to make a book of them for us to be able to look back on, so please be in touch in you have some.

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    • 20/05/2025 by Genevieve Greenwood

      It has been hard; I feel the weight of grieving for 5 at the moment, trying to support my children. Seeing the pain in my children's eyes where they often spontaneously burst into tears.

  • 2 WEEKS SINCE HE LEFT

      12 May 2025

    I would like to give a heartfelt thanks to everyone who has reached out, shown care and kindness, donated or shared Rupert's give a little page.

    The children are doing better than I thought, slowly returning to their normal routines, I on the other hand I am seriously struggling and still at home for them whenever they need me. The kids and I have been talking about things we could do to keep their Dad's memory alive and still have time to grieve privately. One of them is we would love to put some photos up on canvas around the house, some he took and but mainly of him, him/kids. Another is a trip to Auckland Zoo, Ru and I took Bella there when he was in Auckland Hospital. There are a few others we are wanting to do as well that we will keep private.

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  • Post Update

      4 May 2025

    Taken to soon, on Monday 28th April my husband passed away.

    We all thought we still had months left unfortunately his heart had worked too hard for too long. I can not begin to express the grief our children and myself feel but wanted to thank everybody so far for their generosity and support.

    My husband was never able to get life insurance due to Cystic Fibrosis so every dollar is beyond appreciated.

    Rupert was emotional and expressed his gratefulness that so many people have shown care.

    We are taking things one moment at a time.

    https://www.odt.co.nz/star-news/star-national/fighter-who-gave-everything-his-family

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