Back to page

Help Jasmine to stay with her mom

About Jasmine's biological grandma

  8 June 2014

She is racist, she said Jasmine with a Chinese surname is hard to find a job in the future. I told Her about drugs A's taking, she said weed is okay. About random women - she said ""we've all done that, woke up found myself in a stranger's bed"". After Jasmine's born, I asked her to babysit thursday night for 2 hours for 5wks, in April she told her best friend that ""I am glad those Thursday nights are finally over"". When she's with Jasmine alone, Jasmine is never settled, crying all the time, doesn't take bottles. She once laid too much sheets in her bassinet, she doesn't know its suffocation risk. She put on nappies in the wrong way, and didn't know how to prepare a bottle. When Jasmine is nearly 3m sick in the hospital, the nurse asked her to give Jasmine a bath, she responded she doesn't want to march around, the truth is she never did a bath for Jasmine and she doesn't know how to do. After Jasmine's born, I tried to put aside my relationship problem with A, and hope Jasmine can know her family in nz and received love and care, we had several family get-together, but I am the one who look after her 24hrs, and financially support her. She bought some toys and a pram, anyway she took away all of them already even christmas presents. In April Jasmine and me lived at her place, she had the chance to see Jasmine for 2 weeks. I am looking after Jasmine all the time for feeding, bathing, playing games, to assure her routine etc. And we agreed to share expense while I stay, I didn't rely on them completely, I share expense, I even bought my own washing powder, dishwasher liquid and toelit paper. I did housework as well. A and His mum never paid for Jasmine's nappies and formula. At the end of April, Jasmine and me left her place by paramedic and police's advice, I still kept that notice. On Saturday night April 27th, she suddenly started accuse me, didn't allow me to take Jasmine to China to visit my parents, on April 28th, she went hysteric, didn't listen at all, couldn't calm down, accused me that I ""used"" her, yelling that Jasmine is not a proper granddaughter, asked me to remove her middle name, she went into Jasmine's room and took away all things that she gave to her, she said Jasmine cannot have them. She blamed me that time why did I call her when Jasmine's sick in hospital. She said she doesn't want to be attached to her. I was very heartbroken and told her we have to leave. She woke me up at night asked me to leave the next day, I didn't eat anything for 2 days, cried too much, headache and still have to wake up at night to breastfeed Jasmine. Jasmine and me's routine were totally disturbed. I told her to calm down and begged her to give me one more week to find somewhere else to settle down, she said she couldn't stay one more day, the next morning, she called ambulance, the paramedic talked to both of us, and found out she took some tablet and was not emotional stable, she was forced to Tauranga Hospital, then the policemen came, both policemen and paramedic told me to leave for safety, I had no other choice, grabbed several bags and took a bus to Auckland. I made lots of calls couldn't get a carseat for Jasmine, so my friends couldn't come to pick me up, I have to travel by bus, 3 hours to Auckland. I arranged everything, asked my friend to buy a carseat to pick me up in Auckland, I have few money in my pocket, and have to stay with my friend for 2 wks. I asked Her for help to settle down, she said she wants custody, I refused, then no more response. eventually my parents send money to me. The week we arrived in Auckland, Jasmine got sick, because I don't have much baby things with me, I carried her , travelled to city central to her GP, I was desperate, I texted baby's father for help, he didn't want to meet me. I was exhausted and didn't sleep well, didn't eat well, cried too much, my breastmilk just suddenly gone. The expense on formula increased. When I asked my friend to collect my stuff from her place, in the email i told her because she didn't regconize Jasmine as a proper granddaughter and took away a's teddy bear, so I don't want them back, I will only collect my stuff. So she not only didn't give me anything sentimental, but also didn't give me anything else related to Jasmine, no pram, no clothes, no toys at all. not even gifts from other family member. Winter is coming, I have to spend more money to get Jasmine new clothes, new pram etc which are essential for her day to day life. I eat once a day, instant noodles. I sold most of my old clothes. I planned to go back to work again, although Jasmine is so young for day care. I did my best to give Jasmine a good life, desparetly I turned to give a little for help. She made a complaint to ask my page to be removed. She doesn't help herself, don't want me to get help from other as well. Once my visa expires, I have to leave New Zealand, then A and Her will have Jasmine, and I will never see my daughter again.

  0 comments  |  Login to leave a comment
Read 9 more updates