Meant To Be : Daughter Finds Biological Mother 47 years later after finding out of Adoption. They have not yet met.
Auckland
My wife Wendy received unexpected news last year that she was adopted , this was a tightly kept family secret , where solemn promises were made and kept.
My wife sadly lost her Mom 20 years ago , and her Dad 4 years ago , as you can imagine there were a lot of questions left unanswered. Fortunately a surviving member was able to disclose a few details. Wendy then spent months trying to obtain answers she desperately needed , with very little to go on , Wendy decided to do her DNA , which would at least give her closure if true or not , as the DNA would reveal the concrete evidence she needed.
Finally her DNA was done and within 4 months the clues obtained meant we were getting closer , when finally on the 18th April 2017 , a phone call was made by Wendy and answered by her Biological Mother , putting an end to the catapulting news received.
Since then my Wife and her Mother share phone calls and emails , as Dawn lives abroad in South Africa.
My wife was deeply affected by the loss of her Mom 20 years ago , she never knew she was adopted , not an inkling . The news was bittersweet as it gave her Hope , Hope in finding Dawn.
There are many similarities between them , they chat and laugh for hours , that in itself has filled a massive void in her life since her adoptive Mom passed away 20 years ago.
My wife embraced the news the best she could , and accepted what she could not change.
It would be incredible to see the family unite with Dawn who has had to carry a lot of pain for her part of the journey.
Wendy has also discovered that she has a 1/2 brother called Jayson , there is much comfort in knowing that one has a sibling , something that was also taken away from her too soon , as he brother passed away , due to an act of violent crime.
Relationships have always been everything to Wendy
My wife deserves the most beautiful reunion with her Biological Mother.
They have a beautiful story of Hope.
Wendy only found out a short while ago , however the weight of the unknown for her was tremendous , all she wanted was to find her biological mom , knowing that time was very precious , she needed to let her know that she harboured no ill feelings , no judgement , only a second chance if she too wanted that .
It also means the world to me that my children have a Grandmother and our Grandchildren benefit from knowing their Great Grandmother.
More importantly that my wife can embrace her heritage and that she can identify herself with someone.
The funds would be used to host her Biological Mother in New Zealand.
We know we cannot make up for the lost years , lost celebrations , but I would like to be able to create breathtaking memories together if her Mother can visit us.
Hopefully mother and daughter can share their first Christmas together , New Year and Wendy's 1st (48th) Birthday with her Mother.
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