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  • 22/12/85 - 09/04/19

      12 April 2019
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    Sadly, it is with a very heavy heart that I tell you that OUR Beautiful Elaine Grace Losana Iketau Milo passed away on 09/04/19.

    She was the most amazing Mum to Lalakai and Lorielle and a beyond loving Wife to me so much so that we her Family, her "Everything" are so heartbroken and full of grief at how someone too Good for this world could be taken so young. Though we her Family are extremely distraught at this time, we draw strength from knowing that she is no longer in pain or suffering as she had been in for so long. Elaine will be missed by so many but most of all by us her Everything. Thank you for giving us more time with her as it is clear she was able to be with us longer because of the generosity of you and all that loved her. Please continue to be the "Beautiful People" she had always said that you all are and support the many families that are suffering also from this devastating disease that took our Elaine from us far too soon.

    With great Love and Thanks

    Elaine, Lalakai, Lorielle and Daniel xoxo

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    • 18/04/2019 by Melissa Masina

      Our condolences and much love to you and your family ❤️

    • 18/04/2019 by Jenny

      Devastating news. Thank you for all the updates for Elaine. My deepest sympathy to you Daniel and your two beautiful children Lalakai and Lorielle.....such a loving family with a Mummy and Wife taken much to early.

      RIP Elaine. xxx

  • 30/07/18 Update

      31 July 2018

    Hi All, just had Elaine's Oncology appointment following her (Post PRRT) 3 month scan.

    The GREAT news is the treatment has been very successful and is the key reason to my dear Wife's improved health. With the images showing no clear signs of further growth, we at least at this stage can presume that we have more time together than what had been expected if treatment was unobtainable. The fact that I am here now updating you 1 year on about how WELL she is doing, clearly shows how necessary and effective PRRT is. Her journey up to this day has had its fair share of highs and lows but with each day coming and going we have been able to reflect on and celebrate our most important moments whilst continuing to create more special ones together as a Family.

    I can say without a doubt in my mind, every one of you connected to our cause has helped Elaine be with us today. Thank you thank you thank you, and know that no words I type could ever truly communicate how much appreciation and Love my Family have for you.

    PRRT will remain Elaine's first choice of defense for as long as it is still viable for her body to take. We can at least at this stage expect to have 10 months or more without PRRT, should her scans and blood tests continue to show improvement or stability which will be monitored closely. So a sigh of relief for Elaine who has had to endure so much already.

    Although we have been told she will likely never be out of the woods and to make the most out of our time together. We will continue to pray for a miracle, with modern medicine still advancing and with Elaine's body putting up one heck of a fight, there is still Hope. This Hope we continue to hold onto thanks to the Love God has shown us through the compassion of all of you.

    Thank you for believing in our cause, the message's of Love & KIA KAHA and most of all THANK YOU for EVERY day that we have with our Elaine.

    Our children Lalakai and Lorielle, will always know how even just giving a little can mean everything to someone.

    Thank you for giving us Everything.

    Daniel Milo x

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  • Thank you from Elaine

      31 May 2018
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    Thank you everyone!

    I have read and wept with tears of utmost appreciation to each and every one of your 608 comments.

    January 9th i was back in Melbourne receiving my 3rd round of PRRT and chemo. Everything went well. Had great results with the scans (my overall well-being seems to mirror my scans-see latest pics) showing the tumuors have shrunk more noticebly in size.

    Although fatigued with minor ache & pain at times, I felt much better than last year.

    February 26th I was away for my 4th PRRT, just before leaving; tests showed that my blood count was low, so it was decided I skip chemo this round & just do the PRRT alone, followed by a blood transfusion upon return to NZ.

    Treatment went ahead as planned and the scans showed continued shrinkage although still a considerable amount of disease remaining. After further discussion, Prof Rod Hicks recommended I return for another cycle for the best chance at prolonging my life, this was more PRRT than originally planned, as most patients do 4 cycles initially. Funds and blood results needed to be assessed before making the decision.

    Back in NZ and went straight in for a blood transfusion. To what followed a reminder of what my colour used to be like, as my cheeks bloomed rosey red as they use to pre-treatment:)

    My vomitting and weight-loss had stopped and the severe symptoms of Carcinoid syndrome had dramatically decreased, with me now being able to do normal everyday things without much or any assistance!

    April 17th I was back in Melbourne for my 5th PRRT Treatment, everything went well & scanning showed a bit more shrinkage. Again my blood counts were low (had another blood transfusion) so I did not do chemo. As expected, fatigue and nausea followed but overall improving with hopeful and positive thinking puts me in a good place.

    I cannot express enough how thankful I am to everyone for helping fund this treatment for me. I was diagnosed almost a year ago now(June 15 2017). The first couple of rounds of Chemo on their own had barely any influence on the Tumors but rather taxing on my general health, it seemed I was on a downward spiral real quick.

    I believe wholeheartedly that thanks to PRRT, I am here and have been able to gain some of my life back and for this I am tremendously grateful to you all and the many people behind the scenes that have been helping my family and I throughout my journey.

    PRRT has delivered on it's promise of improving quality of life thus giving me more time with my dear family. "How much time?" is hard not to think about, however considering that an Oncologist told me that without the right treatment I may only have months; being here right now to tell you my story, almost 12 months on, is a testament to the success of PRRT, and the amazing support we have been so blessed to receive.

    5 cycles of PRRT, 7 weeks apart with ups and downs along the way has been a long and enduring process, though now leaving me with more good days than bad. My body has taken a big hit with all this treatment which is why I won't be permitted anymore PRRT until we get a gauge on how my body and the disease is responding, with a 3 month then 6 month scan scheduled to monitor any changes.

    Decisions will be made from this next scan, & while PRRT is still my best hope; a contingency plan will be part of that discussion on what to do if it is temporarily off the table. Each trip over for PRRT costs about $8300 AUD, and that's not including flights & accommodation. Thanks to you and a great community of people close to our family I was able to afford the 5 trips necessary to be where I am today.

    With the great result so far from PRRT, there is a possible outcome my Doctors have helped me to better understand. Because of the high grade and extensive spread of my tumours, and the volatile nature they are of. The fast and great amount of shrinkage my tumours have shown, means that they are also as likely to come back just as fast and great at any time, possibly within a year. So we are on high alert watching out for any spike in my symptoms, regular blood tests, and making sure any uneasiness is checked out.

    I cannot stress enough how important it is to bring PRRT here to NZ so that it may be available the next time I and the many others will need it.

    When I've asked how long can we treat this for? The answer is years, when I press more and ask more specifically about my time-frame, the answer becomes more vague. Seeing i'm almost at 1 year, I've asked 2 years? where they answer "likely" but asking anymore years than 2 the reply is a "...we'll see".

    Because so much is unknown with my future, I now try not to plan too far ahead.This, along with moments of low energy and fatigue & the odd ache tends to make me upset. Being active in my families lives and living and loving in the present is helping me to stay positive.

    Regardless, I'm thankful and grateful. Life has continued on in the Milo Family, I have been able to see-out almost a whole year and create more loving memories & start new ventures with my beautiful kids. Finally enrolled my daughter in gymnastics, she's well into her 2nd term & loving it and also started playing basketball, she has proved to be quite the awesome defensive player, I'm glad these are first's for her that I've been able to be apart of. My son is loving his rugby season so far, & also glad to be back at basketball. I'm so proud to see his growth into a young man as he's taken on responsibilities in his last year at primary school as a senior. My loving husband, while duties are more for him, I've been able to relieve him of the washing, vacuuming & the driving around of our kid's:) We've been camping for the first time this year, & were lucky enough to go a second time although that time was pretty cold. How beautiful New Zealand is!

    Last year at my worst, I could not stand long periods without becoming breathless, dizzy, hot with a sudden flush & a throbbing head ache feeling ready to pass out. Thanks to PRRT and your generosity my condition has improved allowing me to continue spending quality time and make new and wonderful memories with my amazing family.

    Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers. I'm due for the 12 week post treatment scan next month, hopefully more good news to come:)

    God Bless You All

    Love Elaine Milo

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  • PRRT Round 1 & 2!!!

      25 November 2017
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    Our sincerest apologies for taking so long to update our cause, we've been wanting to keep you all as informed as possible. But with Elaine's condition constantly changing day to day, we find ourselves losing track of time.

    First off we'd like to say THANK YOU, we have an overwhelming feeling of gratitude for each and every one of you that we carry with us through this journey. The love and kindness poured upon our family from you has continued to uplift and encourage Elaine as she fights for more precious, quality time.

    From our last update... The first 2 rounds of oral chemo that Elaine had, unfortunately showed from the scans that there was no significant change to the size of the tumors or any decrease in their spread. This was upsetting to hear & even more harder for us to want to share, what was devastating news at the time.

    However a week later, we received our much awaited call from Melbourne for PRRT which put us in better spirits. We had Elaine's first Assessment & Treatment itinerary all finalized, with that and the reality of what was now ahead sinking in; we were at the same time humbled and overwhelmed with emotion that this was made possible because of YOU!! We hold you all dearly in our hearts.

    The days and weeks before her first treatment to go over, Elaine's well-being was quickly deteriorating. She lost 30 kg's in a short amount of time, having no energy and no control over a severe spike in her Carcinoid Syndrome. All together taking its toll physically, mentally and emotionally, she was drained... But with her great medical team, along with the loving support around her; Elaine tackled each day by day, with all focus on her getting well and prepared as possible before arriving in Melbourne for PRRT treatment as this would hopefully improve her condition.

    ROUND 1 of PRRT- DAY 1: Unable to walk or stand long periods, we sought the use of a wheel chair for most of the travel to Melbourne, especially at the airport while waiting in the long queues. We then arrived at the Peter MacCallum Cancer Centre welcomed by its lovely staff. We met with a team of specialists to review, assess everything in preparation for the following days planned treatment. (It was also pre-planned for a stronger concoction to attack this cancer, that Elaine do both PRRT & a 3rd round of oral chemo simultaneously. She was on Day 9 of 14 of oral chemotherapy upon arrival and very tired to say the least.)

    Day 2. First Treatment!!! Elaine received an IV infusion of Amino Acids via Intravenous access. The Radionuclide is administered through the same Intravenous line. This whole procedure took about 4-5hours.

    Day 3. Imaging. On this day, information is gathered to confirm scale of uptake of radiation to diseased area. We were then very lucky to meet Prof. Rod Hicks & it was he who revealed the great news of a successful uptake amount as the scans showed Elaine received a very promising amount of radiation to the diseased areas with no clear signs of uptake to her other healthy organs. He advised 5 Rounds of PRRT initially are likely and booked Elaine in for treatment 6 weeks later. Approval to fly home to recover was given and we were back home in Auckland on Day 4 embraced by our 2 amazing kid's; who had a hard time during, as this was our first time away from each other.

    After returning home, the 1st week Elaine suffered flu like symptoms while being extremely fatigued, frail & still struggling to eat properly. The 2nd week her "flu" was gone, we started seeing some improvement, she was able to eat a bit more with less discomfort and her weight was starting to stabilize. Weeks 3-5 we are seeing more better days and further improvement to her carcinoid syndrome. Weeks 6-7 Things start taking another turn as some of her symptoms come back slightly aggressive than the weeks prior as she was now due back to go for round 2 of PRRT Treatment.

    ROUND 2 of PRRT- DAY 1: Taking our last trip and her returning symptoms into consideration, I insisted that she use a wheelchair again however this time she stubbornly decided not to use a wheel chair and get a gauge on her physical limits. So instead, she stood on the sideline of the queues and sat on our luggage every time she felt herself becoming weak; this made both her and I very proud of such a significant improvement of her capabilities compared with our last trip. After landing, we made our way to the Peter Mac Centre. We then met with Specialist's to review everything, after updating them of Elaine's condition since she was last seen; we agree there is some symptomatic improvements to her health and look forward (but also nervously) towards the results of the pending scan. Elaine was again on Day 9 of 14 of now Round 4 oral chemotherapy and coped pretty well with the long day this time.

    Day 2: Second treatment went well, same procedure took about 3-4hrs this time.

    Day 3: Imaging. BIG NEWS the scan showed that the first PRRT had a good response with parts of the liver showing some shrinkage and another good uptake from yesterdays session. Such a big relief to know that this is working!! (Pic in gallery is of her enlarged liver, the black is showing the uptake of the tumors, in comparison you could not see her spleen before)

    Again we return home on Day 4, purposely not making this trip any longer then it needs to be as separation away from our kids is the hardest part for Elaine.

    It's almost been 2 weeks now since Elaine's second PRRT dose. She's doing okay though still fatigued and at times distressed with her Carcinoid syndrome, but is learning to cope; over-all she feels positive and we're confident that we will continue to see her improve bit by bit with further treatment. We are so thankful to God for the days, weeks, months we've had thus far and continue to pray for a miracle. PRRT has already proven to be effective and we are hopeful that together with Faith and Medicine she will overcome this terrible disease.

    Our two joys, Lalakai and Lorielle have been forced to go through so much these past months with more hurdles ahead, we are proud of how brave they have been and continue to be. Thanks to all the beautiful people who give their love and support, our Family has been able to overcome much despair and smile a whole lot more.

    We are truly grateful to you ALL,

    Elaine is due for round 3 early January, updates to follow

    Thank you and God Bless you.

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  • Officially My Wife xx

      9 August 2017
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    Hi Everyone, sorry for this late update as there has been a lot going on since starting this page. Thank you all, every single one of you that have contributed to Elaine’s cause both in sharing and donations. Our family has been so overwhelmed by the generosity and drive that you have shown and we are so grateful to God and humbled to think that so many people both near and far care about Elaine’s plight to be with us longer.

    Miss Elaine Iketau is now officially Mrs Elaine Milo, thanks to our nearest and dearest who had caught wind of our intention given Elaine’s diagnosis to fast track and make it official, we were able to have a beautiful humble Wedding on our 11th Anniversary 22 July 2017. And all organized in a little over a week’s notice!

    Even our awesome medical team organized with the wonderful palliative charity organization Race4Life, a “Family-moon” for us in Queenstown, a place we had always Dreamed about but never thought we’d get the chance to experience together.

    However whilst on our Family-moon, a very saddening realization came to both Elaine and I. With both kids sleeping after a long day of settling in, with a single glare at each other and the silence that followed. We both knew why we were here, what it really took for us to be in a place we Dreamed of, to have our Beautiful Wedding day put together for us and to have so much Love pouring in on this Give a Little page. At that moment I held Elaine’s hand with our Wedding fingers interlocked and said to my Bride; I would give all this away, all of the good that has happened and I would want nothing else if it meant we could grow old together.

    With 1 round of Chemo down, and next to start on Sunday 20/08/17; Dr Ben Lawrence has given us a more graphic view of Elaine’s condition via scan images taken earlier last month. It was advised she start chemo first as her liver is very riddled with tumors as well as being extremely enlarged pushing against other vital organs like the spleen and lungs, sometimes making it very difficult for her to eat, drink or even breathe. She’s still struggling to cope with her Carcinoid Syndrome Symptoms that continue to drain her. PRRT will help Elaine to have a better quality of life then what she’s currently experiencing. We’re hoping that these 2 rounds of Chemo will help shrink some of these tumors before heading over for her PRRT assessment which is compulsory for every patient. Thank you all so much as we wouldn’t be even able to talk about the best treatment option in Australia had it not been for all the efforts you BEAUTIFUL people have shown!!! More updates to follow with how her Scan (tumors) will look like after the second round of chemo and hopefully a confirmed date from Peter Mac Hospital in Melbourne for when this PRRT assessment date will be :)

    God Bless you always

    Milo Family xx

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