support my top surgery journey 🤎

hey 🤍

this feels a little vulnerable to share, but i wanted to open up about something that’s been a big part of my life for a long time.

i’m non-binary (they/them), and i’ve never felt like i fully fit into being male or female — i sit somewhere in between, and that’s where i feel most like myself.

since my teenage years, i’ve felt disconnected from my chest. over the last few years, that feeling has only gotten stronger, and now it affects me almost every day.

simple things like getting dressed, showering, or being around others can feel uncomfortable. i avoid certain clothes, feel limited in how i move, and often catch myself hunching to hide my chest. binders haven’t worked for me, and i’m allergic to trans tape, so i rely on oversized clothing just to feel okay.

i’ve been seriously thinking about top surgery for around 5 years now. seeing others in the community go through it made me realise — this is something i need too.

i just want to feel like myself, without constantly feeling like i’m hiding.

top surgery would help me to become myself.

i’m asking for support because i can’t afford this on my own alongside everyday living costs.

💰 Estimated costs (NZD):

• Surgery: $15,000–$22,000

• Other costs (consults, post-op care, recovery): $1,500–$3,000

if you’ve read this far, thank you 🤍 it genuinely means a lot.

there’s no pressure at all — even just sharing or supporting in your own way means more than i can put into words.