She is gone. Now we face the end of the dream and the beginning of survival...
Help Amy, Sam and Rob navigate in a new and uncertain world without Lois's love and support.
Ashhurst, Manawatu-Wanganui
Lois was the strongest and most loving person I’ve ever known. On January 20 2025, after a brave and valiant fight, she passed away peacefully, leaving an unfillable void in our lives. Now, our family faces the immense challenge of moving forward without her.
On December 21, 2024, we received the devastating diagnosis: metastatic adenocarcinoma. This aggressive cancer had spread to her bones, liver, brain, and spinal cord, with no prior visible symptoms.
Lois fought with everything she had, but the cancer was relentless and moved so fast. She faced it all with grace and love. Her passing has left me, our two children—Amy and Sam—and everyone who knew her beyond heartbroken.
With Lois gone, I am now the sole caregiver to our children. The challenges of providing for them while navigating this new reality are likely immense. Funds raised through this page will help ease the financial burden and allow me to focus on supporting Amy and Sam through this difficult time.
Your support will be used to:
Cover day-to-day living costs as we adjust to life without her.
Support Amy and Sam’s schooling/extracurricular activities to ensure stability and normalcy.
Offset costs associated with Lois’s final arrangements and associated expenses.
Your generosity ensures that Amy and Sam have a stable and loving foundation as they grow up. It gives us the means to grieve, heal, and honor Lois’s memory while creating a future that she would have wanted for her family.
Use of funds
Updated on 28/01: Day-to-day living costs as we adjust to life without Lois, support for Amy and Sam’s schooling/extracurricular activities to ensure stability and normalcy. Offset costs associated with Lois’s final arrangements and associated expenses.
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Thank you... 28 January 2025
Deepest and most enduring thanks to all of you who have stopped by to offer condolences and support...the kids and I appreciate it.
Such trite words.
They don't even begin to describe the limits of how much we appreciate the efforts and contributions of all over the lest 6 weeks or so.
From people stopping to offer emotional support to those who dropped off meals and other supplies at the door to those who helped by cleaning up the section...so many people contributed, and it has made such a difference to us as we face this new and uncertain future going forward.
Lois fought with all her considerable will and determination, but the situation was just too far gone, even when we received the initial diagnosis.
I am unsure of what the future holds for our family going forward, but if (as Aesop said) a man is measured by the company he keeps or by the quality of his friends and companions, then I am truly blessed.
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Thank you Evan. She often spoke of you and your time at Faith together.
Thank you Sarah. Nice to finally be able to put a face to name, and to meet you in person.
Thank you for your generousity. Very much appreciated.
Thank you Vicki. Very much appreciated by AMy and the rest of the family.
Thank you Caitlin. Very much appreciated. Hopefully we will be able to catch up in person at some stage.
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