My life is slowly dissolving thanks to medical arrogance. I have an excellent chance of being put right in Sydney.
Hawke's Bay
In constant pain now.
Spend alot of time in bed.
Have to be dragged out of the house.
Cant go out in the sun, for multiple health reasons.
Cant fully enjoy my family.
Have had to suspend my Degree for the year.
Go on a benefit.
Broken.
Having to fight for a resolution. Having to Fight for Sanity.
Two years ago we were an average couple with a tremendous family and excellent prospects.
One and a half years ago, thanks to the direct actions and indirect actions of the Neurosurgical department at Wellington hospital, we became a barely functioning clan. Tied by Love and Care for our little family, but strained, stressed, pulled, and tortured by the indifference of a collection very arrogant and desensitised men.
I had had a run of severe head pain out of the blue. Went to the doctor, he was also curious as to the cause being my shunt. Flown to Wellington neurosurgery for investigation, it was determined to be a shunt valve malfunction. Little neurosurgery, a new valve and I am and out. Feeling very unwell, more than the surgery should be inflicting. The coming hours are filled with excruciating pain, constant vomiting, and incoherence. Again pain relief has no effect.
Hours later an x-ray determines the tube is kinked below my collarbone. It had recoiled after the surgeon let go once he had connected the new system. Rushed to surgery, Error corrected, feeling human. Sore from the surgery, but a lot better than it was before. (Not hard). Released. Went home, many trips back to Wellington to get it looked at. It did not feel right. Many phone calls, emails, and plea's. Little response.
I have had to stop working, cant attend school, I did try.
One year ago, I had just embarked on a new year as a student studying something that was enriching me and brightening prospects for us all. Because of the state of my head, and the toll it had taken on me personally, and our unit as a whole, I had to work twice, three times as hard at completing papers. This was no onerous duty as I love my family, and I thoroughly enjoyed school and all the different elements at school.
Tutors, staff, students and friends. 1st class.
Life was showing a slight improvement and we settle into a mostly functional life. Me experiencing daily pain, and a huge alteration to my personality, and psychology.
Still no movement or assistance from any government department that should help us.
Including the hospital.
Last words I heard from my original surgeon was "he wished he never touched me".
Six odd months ago, excuse slight time inaccuracies, The candle of hope flared as we were given a new surgeon (#2). This ended better at the start. After having a wire protruding from my forehead, connected to a monitoring device at all times, returned readings of 20-30 in the negative pressure (Running dry) consistently. A normal level is, correct me if I am wrong, between 10-20 in the positive pressure.
I was told to go away for 6 weeks and they would see me in a clinic in 6 weeks. Discuss what to do.
The day after release I am back in A&E, after being turned away at the ward I had just been released from. Writhing in extreme pain, vomiting, eyes rolling back. Having no relief from any pain meds.
Admitted to the ward, again ( getting to know the staff well ), When eventually coherency had returned, but the pain had not subsided I am told to be put at a Five-degree down angle, Head down, on my stomach. Confined to bed for 11-12 days, Then another 24 hours being sat up slowly in increments.
The decision is made to do a shunt revision. Turns out the shunt valve was faulty, free-flowing, no resistance. 1-2 days later I am out, literally on the street outside the hospital. My return to Napier through the hospital system was to be undertaken in a public bus, via taxi 5-6 hours drive in a bus I'd say. I had just had rather taxing neurosurgery. I called Sonya, she had a room booked for me at a hotel Copthorne Hotel, Wellington quick smart. 1st class place to stay.
I request the bus ticket cancelled. Because I cancelled the bus ticket, they cancelled the accompanying taxi. I had hoped to take that to the hotel instead. I had no wallet, no money, no credit on my phone, running on free hospital WiFi.
No idea what to do.
Thankfully the staff at the main desk of the hospital dug up $20 and made sure it was enough to get there. To Good.
The ward was no help. Not because the individual staff would not, but because they could not help.
Not sure where we are heading,
Surgery pain goes away. Quickly replaced with a different a new type of pain. Effects of previous issues amplified. The familiar cycle of a condescending mouthing of words from the hospital about give it time, your body has to adapt begins.
Complete a rather successful semester at school, an A average over the year.
End of January and I have the pleasure of another stay at Wellington hospital. On first names with the staff, even getting to know their personal lives. Not too worried, expecting a fairly quick resolution because of the relationship I thought I was building with my new surgeon, he had seen my head in all its glory. Damned thing. Have a new surgeon, #3. New surgeon = Groundhog day for us.
In the twelve days I was there I saw him but once. Many valve adjustments, done with a non-intrusive magnet. This time only about 5 hours of excruciating pain, vomiting, and incoherence The shunt is changed back lower 1 step from where it was originally. Me still in nearly constant pain, taking painkiller as soon as I could, it having little effect. I keep telling them it is better than it was but its still not working properly. I am told again my body needs to adjust, Blah Blah Blah. Sent home.
The funds will aid in the travel and stay expenses while in Sydney to get fixed.
Thank you 28 April 2018
To recap on the history my friends and family, and their friends and families we had been fundraising and sorting out a plan to get me to Sydney to see Dr Raj Reddy, my former neurosurgeon in Australia, so he could do something the New Zealand health system seems incapable of doing.
Fixing my head issues.
This shall probably be the last Give a Little update.
I am truly humbled and awed by the response to our request for help.
Friends, family, and everything in-between, whilst thanks to everything that has happened to us in the last few years, and the head/personality/mental health issues, I was largely separated from the world and disconnected, the events of the last few months have initiated a bit of a reconnection.
Being pushed so close to the edge the only way to survive was to ask for help.
Asking for help is/was a very foreign concept to me. Not because of pride, but because of an awareness that I am not special, and everyone has issues and life to deal with.
There are people who went above and beyond of anything that one could ever hope for when in need of assistance. Eternally grateful.
Those that helped me retain my sanity after being bedridden for six weeks, Your personality, humour and love made the time more bearable.
There are countless more people that have my love, respect and appreciation for everything they have done to help me in getting my life back. Thank you.
Adding to the stress, our financial position was severely compromised because the government cut our support as soon as I left the country.
I don't tick the correct boxes, and due to the haste with which I had to leave, I could not apply for an exemption.
So,
I was in Sydney for seven and a half weeks. I was released from hospital three and a half weeks ago.
The entire time in hospital was spent in constant pain, laying down, bedridden, except to shower/bathroom. Those times I was upright to freshen up always resulting in a massive increase in pain, followed by heavy medication and rest.
Raj did not waste any time, thankfully, the first week and a half was, after surgery for monitoring equipment placement, spent in HDU, tethered to a monitor and a computer. Unable to leave my bed for anything.
Was an upleasant period, though it was helped by the fact my dear brother, Aaron Harris, paid for my dad to fly down and stay in Sydney for a week, so I was not alone for the first week.
The results from monitoring showing I was still over draining brain juice. My poor noggin.
Raj was unsure how to proceed, in a manner that was going to aid and not harm me. Alot of factors to consider.
I fell into a very deep and dark hole for a while, spent alot of time in tears. I was alone, physically, desperately disconnected from my dear family, fearful I would not see them again, fearful there was no resolution.
This was of course not helped by the fact I had not been receiving my mood stabilisers for a week and a half.
But thanks to that realisation, and the staff at the hospital, I was able to pull myself out.
Then it just turned into a waiting game.
Raj had clinics in Port Macquarrie to attend and seminars, he also wanted a second opinion from two doctors, one another neurosurgeon, and the other a shunt specialist. Both of these people are extremely busy and because I was mostly stable, in constant pain but not life-threatening, It took a while to see them.
The shunt specialist was amazing, I have never had a doctor understand so completely what I was experiencing. Was truly a fantastic experience and one I am truly grateful for.
She recommended a revision, just what we had hoped.
A bit more waiting, I was also bumped from the list and had to wait a further week due to emergencies. Completely understandable.
The surgery went ahead, without complications thankfully, and a week later I was released.
The effects of the surgery were instant, the hell and dark fog I have been living with for so long, lifted.
I had forgotten what it felt like to feel so good, so normal.
We are still yet to see what damage has been sustained by such severe and prolonged stress and trauma to my brain.
Time will tell.
Still have to heal from the surgery and rebuild my muscle tone from being dormant for so long.
Regardless, I still count this as a massive success and I am absolutely loving the integration back into my family.
I took my children to the circus without animals, We all bloody loved it, were the loudest family there.
We go for walks around the block near every day, just enjoying each others company, even when Lily trips over and packs it. She is feisty
Playing outside in the autumn sun, for at least an hour.
Helping cooking, cleaning, general house and family stuff. The seemingly mundane day to day chores are so bloody wonderful.
I have not been able to even think of doing any of that over the last one and a half years. Awesome, in the truest sense of the word.
We can rebuild our lives and relationships.
The future is waiting for us.
I know it has been a long tale, and I thank you for sticking with me.
My dear friends, we now move forward.
My sweet lady, Sonya Hargreaves, knows my heart, and my gratitude for her and everything she does and puts up with from me and my health.
All I can offer in return for everything, at this stage, is my deepest gratitude.
One day I hope I will be able to repay, in whatever manner, the generosity and love I have been shown from so many different sources.
I am lucky and blessed to share my life with you.
Love and hugs
Wow. That is an amazing gift. I truly do not know what to say. Thank you is all I have. It does not seem anywhere enough, for any of the gifts, everyone has truly made a positive difference in my life, to my life, and my families life. I tear up frequently when thinking of the generosity and love we have been shown, and hope that when we are able, that we will be able to repay the kindness in some manner. Our family has always, and will certainly continue to, pay it forward when we can. Love and hugs
Thank you very much for your kindness. I am sure Sydney shall be. I hope you are having a good semester. Thank you
Oh Jen. You truly are a special lady. Your kindness humbles me. Thank you, so much. Love and hugs
Thank you very much Bryar. Incredibly generous of you and greatly appreciated. Love and hugs
That is very kind, very kind. Thank you very much Akael and Liam. Your generosity is amazing. Hugs
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