Dylan Schilders Journey
Dylan is fighting for his life and we need as much support as we can get.
Otago
If you know my brother you'll know he has so much love to give everyone, he is the guy you can rely on when you need work done on your house, he may not know what he's doing but he's always eager to learn and he'll always give it his best shot, he's the guy who you can have a beer with and chat for hours about meaningless nothings, he's the guy we all lean on when times are tough. Right now times are tough and I'm asking if he can lean on you.
On Friday the 17th of April Dylan was rushed into A&E non responsive, his heart stopped for 55 minutes. Dylan has been in ICU for 11 days now. He is currently on dialysis and the extent of his brain injury is unknown, we do not know what his future holds but we are preparing for each option we have been given.
On the 22nd of April the Doctors did not think Dylan was going to make it, Sarah his fiance, my parents and I were able to see him then his condition changed, he was stable enough for us to not have to say goodbye at that time but it doesn't remove the possibility from the table. This journey is not linear, we are taking everything day by day.
In June 2019 Dylan and Sarah lost their beautiful baby girl Darci Matariki Schilder who born still, as their world crumbled around them they faced the world together, through their strength and love they supported each other with their grief. They recently discovered they were expecting another baby, Sarah is 12 weeks pregnant. Now they face the possible loss of Dylan too.
I have relocated from Wellington to Dunedin, leaving my part time job to be with Sarah, Leo and Dylan for the foreseeable future. Dylan was the sole income receiver in their household working full time so already, the loss of income is substantial.
With uncertainty of the future for Dylan it leaves his pregnant fiance Sarah and his 3 year old son Leo facing not only an uncertain future for Dylan but it also puts them into financial hardship. Any donations received will be used for Sarah, Leo and I for essential costs such as bills, travel related costs etc.
If you've made it this far I want to thank you for taking the time to read our story, I never thought I would be on here pouring my heart out to ask for help. This journey will be long and there will be obstacles at each turn I am sure, but we will persevere as we are resilient.
Thank you in advance for any donations you make, big or small, we are eternally grateful.
It is love in the presence of darkness.
Nga mihi,
Frances Schilder.
Frances Schilder's involvement (page creator)
I am Dylan's little sister, I am currently in Dunedin supporting Dylan, Leo and Sarah.
Use of funds
Essential costs related to Dylan's loss of income, bills and travel related costs.
Latest update
10/07 What a ride it has been 10 July 2020
I wish I could tell you how many days it’s been since Dylan was admitted to the hospital and I’m sure if i asked Sarah she could tell me exactly how many days it has been along with how many hours we spent in hospital and all the tiny details my brain just couldn’t retain. It’s been a hell of a ride and I think after this update there may only be one more, one more for the goals Dylan will hit soon.
Dyl, Sarah and Leo came to Wellington to see all of our family and friends. They spent a month here which was amazing. Sadly, they flew home last week. There’s nothing like almost losing someone you love to make you realise that the short plane ride to Dunedin is still too far away.
But it’s time for Dyl, Sarah and Leo to start the next chapter of their lives, although this chapter will never be completely closed, the outcome of all of this is nothing short of a miracle. Dylan and Sarah are expecting another beautiful baby soon and now that they’re home, healthy and happy they can start preparing for the baby properly!
Dyl has his hearing aids all set, hopefully soon we’ll know when he can go back to work and drive. Those are the goals you’ll be hearing about soon!
To look back at how far we’ve all come, I am speechless and it’s extremely hard to write this all without reliving it all. But we made it. Dylan made it. The strength my brother has is astonishing. The strength Sarah has is admirable. Our parents, throughout it all were incredible. I think I can speak for everyone when I say the thought of an existence without Dylan was devastating and it ripped us all apart in ways I can’t even explain. The worst is over, the journey we all face now is unknown, but we all get to face it together, with Dylan. And that’s all that matters.
So thank you, for taking the time to read this, for the messages, the financial support, the hugs, gifts, food, everything, a shoulder to cry on, a phone call. Every single thing adds up, it all adds up and it all held us all up throughout a time where everything was unknown. Every single act of kindness/love has built the path we walked on to make it here.
Strength grows in the moments when you think you can’t go on but you keep going anyway.
Love and light,
The Schilder’s and Griffiths’.
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